we are both 43/44, in Telangana India. Mine is second marriage. His is first. I am the educated employed and breadwinnner. He is unemployed uneducated no earnings, no property. My reason for marrying for his health was good for his age. He agreed to have kids at this age. I was fine being the breadwinner.
Now he seems to have a major temperamental issues. He anyways does nothing and I am fine with it. He cant perform at s*x also. So I am having to go for IVF. He is complaining that he is uncomfortable coming to clinics for depositing sperm. He wants to keep "learning " naturally. If it happens it happens, even though docs are trying to rush me if I want children at all.
So, I agreed to try and live together again. but just for information.
1. If i do get pregnant with the IVF, do I still have to give him custody and pay him alimony? We have not been living together for a few months already.
2. If I apply for divorce now and (by the remote chance that he agrees for mutual divorce), can I get divorce immediately so that I can try for children with anonymous sperm donors? (I have 43, so cant wait longer to have children)
3. Do I have to pay him alimony?
The ideal situation would have been not get married at all and have baby with anonymous donor. But well, its a big mistake done.