Hello,
I got married on Jan 2nd and lived with my husband for a week. He has refused to be intimate or loving from day 1 by picking up arguments and fights. After a week, he left to UK, and promised to start our life fresh once we are together.
I reached UK after a month, and even there from day 1, he has been picking issues and refusing to be loving or initmate. His accusations against me are that I am always cribbing and until I change myself, I shouldnt expect his love. I usually keep asking him, why he is not feeling loved. Things were fine, until he stated physically abusing me. I tolerated it for some 5-6 times and didnt tell my parents or his, bcos I wanted us to start life afresh.
Every time he wounds me, he would be sober for a week, and act as if I was the cause for his violent behavior. Later we even went for a trip wit friends and there also he hit me and seeing marks on my face, his friends might have had assumptions. Fearing this, he started a new drama with his friends that I trouble and mentally harass him. When I came to know about it and asked him front of his friends, he resorted to more lies that I hit and throw things at him.
Once when he stuffed me with the quilt, I had told him that i will call up the cops, he then hit himself with the heater telling me that he would tell the cops that I hit him, and till now he maintains that I hit him. He has been telling the same to everyone.
I suggested that we go for counselling, but he says I should see a doc for myself. Now I am back in India and told him that only if he rectifies the lies to his family and friends, I would get back to him. He has been silent after this and refusing to reply to my calls and mails. I have stopped calling him.
I want to know the procedure and grounds for annulment. We have not consumated the marriage and I dont know where the real problem is.
Pls advise.
Regards,
Anita
ps : I am financially a little weak now, and I want to know what wil be the cost for the process. Can I do it without a lawyer ? What are the typical lawyer fees ?