I have been married for exactly 3 years now and have a 2 year old daughter. I’m from Maharashtra and my husband is from another state which is far away from Maharashtra. We met on a matrimonial website, spoke and met for few months and got married very soon.During the wedding when we asked him about his demands, he said he had nothing.He neither has his own house, nor is settled and looks 10 years elder to his age.Things were fine for initial 6 months.After which he has constantly started taunting my parents for not giving dowry.He never asks anything directly but will keep giving examples of women whose parents have given them a house, car etc. after their wedding.He keeps talking negative things about my parents all the time like they don’t talk much, their eating habits are not right which is not true.He says they have not given anything to their daughter, asks me to fight with them for my rights in just a year of marriage.After marriage, he keeps saying that his business is on the downswing which no one will believe as he rarely works hard.For example, just yesterday when I told him that he is not meeting any new client to acquire business, he said its because he cannot leave me alone at home, but that’s not the case since my parents live nearby and I can easily go there whenever he wants to go for business meetings.Isnt this an excuse for not working ? He does not like me talking or staying with my parents.His health has started suffering after marriage according to him. My parents are ready to buy us a house but I feel that wont be enough, he will keep harassing me mentally like this for money all my life. What about his responsibilities towards me ?
I’m working for the last 1.5 yrs and contributing to household expenses and still he wants to help financially in his business, send money to his parents, pay his credit card bills incurred before marriage, car loan incurred before our marriage etc.
He has also been in a live-in relationship with a divorcee before marriage and the women left him in 4 yrs.
Pls help as I do not trust him anymore, can such a marriage work ?
Is divorce the only solution or some other legal intervention/arrangement/compromise possible ?
I do not want to be a freeloader to this abusive, lazy and greedy family anymore.
