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lakshmi says : Alimony/Divorce
I am an Indian women married for 14 years now with 11 and 7 year old boys living in the UK. Within a week after my marriage I came to know that my husband is not working/earning as he projected before wedding. I believed him when he said his friend has cheated him in the business etc just days before our marriage and he did not inform us because he was worried how we would take it. I understood that in the right spirit and decided to start working to help the family going in a reasonable respectable way. Me starting to work which started for that reason slowly became my responsibility while he was loafing around not doing any job. Day after day I would hope that he would find some job that interests him or some day he will become responsible and take over the bread winning responsibility from me because I believed that he needs time to learn new skills as he is a slow learner unlike me. But this wait from days turned to years very fast with the added torture, insult, abuse from him as he started to feel inferior and developed physic behavior. I tolerated all this because we had two sons by then and so I needed his hand to pick/drop kids off school etc while I go away to work. He has not been responsible even with kids and abuse them, use foul language towards all of us, insult and humiliate us in party’s etc to show his male ego and dominance in the family. I became immune to even this behaviour and tolerated with the natural Indian mother’s belief that my children need a father how ever he may be. 1 in 11 times I would retard back verbally especially when he starts to abuse my parents, siblings etc to get to me. So now, he knows that if he abuses/insults me I don’t react and started to abuse my parents more and more which has become intolerable now. Now I think it is not worth letting my parents getting abused for no reason and my children growing in such rotten, foul family atmosphere. I have lately realized that this hectic life of mine where I am the bread winner in this competitive world has left me exhausted trying to do all my roles to perfection single handed and going through this torture when I get back home tired, is not worth it as it is no good to my growing kids too. I work in the IT which is already very stressful, come back home to play a house wife role and a mother’s role. Right from cooking, planning and guiding and helping my kids in studies and activities, 24 hrs have never been enough. In this whole journey I have realised that though my near and dear recognise my struggle in life and praise me, my husband is always there abusing me ,insulting me at home every minute and making me feel very little and good for nothing. He does the same with the kids too. Today the situation is I am tired and cannot endure this anymore. My kids are very attached to me and want to be with me if I leave him. I am considering a divorce which actually should not bother him too much because this would mean freedom for him. His plans are that he will live happily in one of the houses his father has left for him and spend on the cash share which he has got again from his father. So he is all sorted to live alone. So he is not worried. But I don’t want to let him go so easily. All these years of struggle would mean nothing if I cannot get him to see that marriage and kids are a responsibility and nobody can shrug it off just on the pretext of not able to work/earn though they are physically and mentally capable of. I want to separate from him and live separately but want him to be paying towards the kids’ education, well being etc or some way to make him pay for what he has not done so far and should have. I don’t know if the way to do that is alimony. I work and earn decent money and don’t need his money to live on but I want to get him to support us financially after separation so that this will be a lesson for any man who thinks he can marry, have kids and get his wife to do both the roles and he can just chill. If that does not work then he can get away from the relationship and still chill. Secondly once separated, it will be difficult for me to work and physically be available for kids when they get home form school etc. So I prefer to be a home maker and take care of them if I were to get him to financially take care of our family maintenance. My question is, because he has never been working, and has no job now, can I not get him to pay for our maintenance after separation just because I am working and am better settled than him? Is getting separated from him and me working till the end of my life, the only way forward for my life? Please advice. I am looking for replies so that I can judge if I am being reasonable enough or not and also to see if there is any good me going for divorce.I am looking froward to get some advice from a lawyer who is well versed with Indian Hindu law.

Soma says : need help on false 498a
has taken all her stridhan and the entire thing she had and will have no demand anymore also stated in that settlement that she was not having understanding with her husband hence she will leave if she is given Rs 5lakh The deal which we made was in a stamp paper but in that stamp paper it is not mentioned “before the notary public..”.

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pavi says : need help in insurance claim
yesterday we received nic's repudiation letter stating, ' NON DISCLOSURE OF MATERIAL FACT' In that letter, they mentioned various reasons for repudiation. Of course mistake is with us.Since my father is illetrate, he doesnt know the procedure and he asked his brother-in-law about this claim. This is because the accident happened at his place ie Chennai and we r in pondicherry. He reported to nic divisional office, chennai.. At the same time, my father also reported here. My father doesnt know the details about the driver, no. of people travelled and all clearly. He was tensed and worried very much about that accident and filled the intimation form in hurry. But the damage to our vehicle is true, we submitted the proof. is there ay re-consideration? can we get our claim? eecting ur reply in near future, thanks in advance

pavi says : help me out in repudiation letter from nic
hello sir, yesterday we received your repudiation letter stating, ' NON DISCLOSURE OF MATERIAL FACT'

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