Relationship threat
fedrick andrew
(Querist) 24 April 2023
This query is : Resolved
Hi,
Am a 30 year old and was in a relationship for almost 9 years within our family who is 25 years old both the family agreed and we were about the get engaged and married as there was no opposition from both the sides and I have been very supportive both financially and morally to their family, our wedding was post poned due to my father's death in 2021 may and since then there were many problems between us and both the families as we stopped talking and i have been spending most of my earnings to them, taking care of their household etc., and yes I have been a little upset with the way I was treated and I have said few abusive stuff and the relationship has basically ended as they had call this off, but now when I ask them for the money that I had given (i had given 60k for her father's treatment during covid) to return all the jewels that I bought, now the family is threatening me to logged a compliant against me if I call them to ask the money n jewels back.
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 24 April 2023
It does not matter whether the analysis hurts you because you have come here for legal advise and not for gossip.
You said
“Am a 30 year old and was in a relationship for almost 9 years within ”
SO YOU STARTED USING THE FIRL EVEN BEFORE SHE WAS MINOR. SERIOUS NON-BALABLE OFFENCE COMMITTED BY YOU.
You said
“our family who is 25 years old”
YOU DID NOT INDICATE HOW YOU WERE RELATED SO THIS CANNOT BE COMMENTED AS TO WHETHER OR NOT THE MARRIAGE WAS LEGALLY PERMISSIBLE OR NOT.
You said
“both the family agreed and we were about the get engaged and married as there was no opposition from both the sides ”
WHY THERE WAS NO MARRIAGE IMMEDIATELY
You said
“and I have been very supportive both financially and morally to their family, ”
THIS WAY YOU KEPT STRENGTHENING THE PROMISE OF MARRIGE AND PAYING THE CHARGES FOR LIVING IN RELATIONSSHIP
You said
“our wedding was post poned due to my father's death in 2021 may ”
THIS MEANS YOU CLEVERLY KEPT POSTPONING THE MARRIAGE TILL 2021 WHICH IS JUST 2 YEARS BACK AND RELATIONSIP WAS 9 YEAR OLD.
You said
“since then there were many problems between us and both the families as we stopped talking and i have been spending most of my earnings to them, taking care of their household etc., ”
YOU DID NOT DISCLOSE WHAT WERE THE PROBLEMS SO NO COMMENTS CAN BE OFFERED
You said
“and yes I have been a little upset with the way I was treated ”
YOU DID NOT INDICATE HOW YOU WERE TREATED SO NO COMMENT CAN ME OFFERED.
You said
“I have said few abusive stuff and the relationship has basically ended ”
YOU ARE ADMITTING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
You said
“they had call this off, ”
PERHAPS THEY HAD NO ALTERNATIVE
You said
“now when I ask them for the money that I had given (i had given 60k for her father's treatment during covid) to ”
THIS WAS NOT A LOAN RATHER YOU ARE LIABLE FOR PAYING MANTENANCE AS MAINTENANCE CAN BE CLAIMED EVEN IN LIVE IN RELATIONSHIP.
You said
“return all the jewels that I bought, ”
EVEN IF THERE WAS MARRIAGE YOU COULD NOT HAVE ASKED FOR RETURN OF JWELLERY. THIS IS HER PROPERTY.
You said
“the family is threatening me to logged a compliant against me if I call them to ask the money n jewels back.
CERTAINLY THEY CAN LOADGE SERIES OF COMPLAINTS ON YOU. RATHER DOWRY RELATED COMPAINT CAN BE LODGED AGAINST YOUR ENTIRE FAMILY.
SINCE THE RELATION WAS MAINTAINED ON THE PROMISE OF MARIEGE THIS BECOMES RAPE CASE THAT TOO WITH MINOR. SINCE THIS ARRANGEMENT WAS WITH CONNIVANCE OF YOUR FAMILY THE ALL YOUR ARE PARTICIPANT IN CRIME AS ABETTORS AND FACILITATOR
THIS ANALYSIS IS BASED ON YOUR OWN VERSION. ONCE THE VERSION OF GIRLS’ FAMILY IS TAKEN BY POLICE THEN THERE WILL BE HARSHER FACTS AGAINST YOU
kavksatyanarayana
(Expert) 24 April 2023
Yes. Her age is 25 years and you started a relationship nine years back, i.e. she was at the age of 16 years which is an offense.
Dr J C Vashista
(Expert) 25 April 2023
Prima facie it is a moot court topic for debate not a real story, isn't it?
Sudhir Kumar, Advocate
(Expert) 25 April 2023
further more the offenses under POSCO are non-bailable and you seem to be leading your entire family (as abettors) toward the same.
You are also inviting allegation for dowry demand. Anyone can allege that after using the firm nearly for a decade you have declined marriage (or put difficult condition) due to no dowry.
You are leading yourself to pay life long (if girl is not married) maintenance to the girl.
You have not indicated what profession you are having so effect on career cannot be commented.
You have to take "U" turn.
T. Kalaiselvan, Advocate
(Expert) 26 April 2023
You cannot demand the money you had given them during your good terms and times with them just because your relationship soared now.
Was there any loan agreement entered with them while giving that money, if not then there is no claim maintainable.
If they are not willing to continue the relationship or would like to give her in marriage to you, then you may better ignore her and look for some other better choice.
