Good Evening,
After much googling, I came across this website and really found it useful. Hoping to get feedback from the seniors and lawyers on this forum regarding my situation.
I live in Canada and my parents wanted me to get married. So I agreed for an arranged marriage. The girls family was also from the same city and I thought, ok, at least my parents will have a social backup in case it is needed.
This was in December 2011. I met the girl and her parents were very sweet talkers. Her father is in goverment service and pretty senior ranked and I thought, good, that is the type of family I want. The girl was fat and I raised a point about that and her mom said that dont worry, I will take gaurantee of her weight and will make sure that by the marriage, she reduces.
InApril 2012, when I flew down for marriage, I was shocked to see that she has grown twice in size and instead of losing weight, she had put on weight. I did not say anything as all invitation cards ahd gone out and the relatives had started to come. I guess that was my biggest mistake. I should have refused at that time.
I had told the girls parents that I do not believe in Dowry and it is a shameful concept and I don't want any. My only condition was that the marriage should be done in a proper way and respect for my relatives should be properly given. Sadly, the marriage arrangemnts and everything was way below par and I got the feeling all the time that something was not right somewhere. My father even volunteered that in case they ahve money issues, we can take care of the arrangements. But her father said no.
So eventually, I got married to this girl. A couple of days later, her family started showing her true colors. Her father started threatening my dad and said that he has tolerated us enough and he will take care of him. The girl was a puffed up balloon and I talked to her about losing weight and she kind of refused to lose any weight. So all in all, my parents are not happy and they are being threatened. They are feeling very guilty about the fact that all this is happening because of they had pressed me to get married. And off couse, I am stuck with the girls family and the girl herself.
Now I am back in Canada and it has been 10 days since this marriage happened. I also registered my marriage once I was in India so that I can eventually put in the papers of my wife's sponsorship so that she can come to Canada.
I do not want this matrimonial alliance to continue. I am not happy and knowing the girl and the family, I will never be. I am a very simple guy and all these mind games and star plus/sony tv type family drama episodes get on my nerves.
I checked and the only course of action is divorce. But I am afraid that if I initiate it, her family will counter by throwing a dowry case as I have understood that they are very crude people. A good post does not mean that you are a good human. I am worried about my parents as they are there in India and I am here. I have advised my parents to seek legal help in India and see what can be done. But I also wanted the feedback and input of people on this forum.
Any thoughts/advise are deeply appreciated.
