Advice for avoiding divorce

Nothing wrong ..if he sends legal notice...he is not sending Al-Quida terrorists to you.

If you dont want to go to them...just say that they are not taking care of you and your baby and in laws are using abusive language. For that..you shud have some evidence to back your defences.

But pls...dont do recording and all and become a unskilled CID and spoil your marital life.

Gently, tell during counselling that you intend to continue with the marriage, but you need respect and care..which is not happening there with you. If your husband is not willing to stay seperate..then there can be a reason that his family needs his support financially. So dont press on that issue.

Your kid is managable now...8 months right. Take up a job for youself. And dont get into legal tangles. Girl you are facing teething trouble nothing more. Its very common with every girl. Things will change with time. If you start working then, you will forget such domestic issues and have a peaceful life ahead.

Originally posted by : Sanjeevani Bhosale
	@stanely   Yes ... I am feeling that he will send legal notice to come back  and stay with them

Dont bother about legal notice you can tear it and throw it away or use it as toilet paper .

Hello sanjeevani It's nice to see that there are women like you who are thinking ten times before the litigation nonsense. Big respect to that. I would suggest that you speak to your parents about it and arrangements for a family meet where by this can be discussed to sort it out. If there is no relief seek help from CAW but be sure that you do not get carried away by them into lodging cases that harm and destroy families. Like shree Krishna said, war should be the last retort and if there is any room for peace making it should be sort. GOD PROTECT YOU. HARE KRISHNA.

well said DV!!!!!

 

@ Sanjeevani...i think by now we all have given you all possible ways and means to resolve the issue.

 

Kindly proceed with advice given by DV. All the best!!!.

Note: And dv doesnt mean Domestic Violence here ..........:P

Thanks to All :)

@ Sanjeevani,

Except Sudhir advise of 498a and DV, all other advices are ok to save marriage. 498a and DV is such marriage demolisher.

@Author

Dont bother and give too much importance to self respect, individuality, independence and man/woman equality so on and so forth...

The things that you are facing right now are simple marital problems and if ego clashes come in between, that will spoil the beauty of a relationship. we are too small to think about these inequalities. we are no one to prove a point to the world. we are just simple human beings, we dont need to prove a point to our own family. we live and die for our family. right :-)

Please keep these spoilers, world of ego's aside and since you look to be genuine victim, take the expert advices in good spirit. Good luck :-)

I will agree with Mani.

 

Despite past failure give a try to reconciliation without going to CAW, if you can.

If you cannot then remember that even Lord Rama the creator failed to beg for a safe passage from sea and ramayan has a cupled.

 

"Vinay n manat jaladhi jad diwas teen gaye beet.  Bole ram sakop tab bhay bin hot na preet"

 

Some persons persist with domestic viol;ence till they understand that they are going to be one of the crowd hearded in jails on matrimonial offnce and prefer "U" turn. 

 

It is unfortunate that this law is only misused against innosent people and real victims stay away and it defeats the purpose of litigation.

i totally agree with Sudhir,

the courtesy call might have been given thinking that you may move to court after the incident.

Originally posted by : stanley
	offcourse @ Charu google the grounds for dissolution of marriage and he has to prove those grounds . so you can convey to your husband the same thing :-)  Divorce petition writers write a story book when it comes to divorce and whatever true or false allegations are mentioned in it have to proved :-)

does the Judge reject the petition on the first day itself??

I thought petition writers write the petition making a ground of divorce stipulated in divorce law , then the case proceeds in its own way in the court then divorce is granted/ not granted based on the evidence provided to prove the grounds.

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@ author, if go back to your own house with the baby because that is your house, so why u wait till husband sends legal notice?Do your duty towards husband and parent's in law.your husband may change seeing his own child.Again if you stay at parent's house and file cases from there then it will not be a strong case.

Agreeing with Ranee I would add that you have every right to enter the house and iof need Police has to help you. 

What Raanee said is proper advise. He is your husband with whom you shared everything. Why now hesitation and feeling humiliation? Between husband and wife, shame has little meaning unless one is forced to be slave.

dooriyaan bhi hai zaroori........
give time madam

tumhi doghanni ek mekanna thoda vel dyayla pahije......

give a time of few months till then do some work or job or whatever , let them know u can stand on your feet....

let ur importance be known....

if he files cases or notices....wait dont hurry, let him make a move , if he doesnt in sm time u can opt for cases or FIRs

keep them last option.....secure urself first and then demand ur rights.. remember cases drain u financially , emotionally and what u get last is an unsatisfactory decision spoiling everythn......

wait n then decide after thinking .....

experts have adviced u well above...

@author

bottomline, you WANT your husband back. so DONT take any action that may threaten his or

his family's safety. You can try elders , mediation or RCR.

If you really dont want your husband, then you can do many things.

If you take police to his house, you will never see your husband again.

You  know the condition and mind set of your in-lawws better than anyone else.

 

You havfe to ask question to yourself. If you thing that they can mend their ways by persuation then keep trying.