Can his living seperately for so many months become a strong point if he files divorce?
No. He voluntarily abandoned you; he cannot take benefit of his own wrong and you are not guilty of desertion. On this ground, he cannot take divorce.
Can I take up a job while he is not living with me or will it hamper any alimony which i could get if I have no way out but to give him a divorce.
maintenance is of two types, one is maintenance during the pendency of case and the other one is permanent alimony. If you are employed, there is less likely for you to get the maintenance during the pendency of case or you may get reduced amount depending upon your income through job. Permanent alimony also depends upon your income coming out of your job and its quantum also varies depending upon your job status. Despite this, I advise you to get a job and woman's economic empowerment will always help her in every stage of her life including during the legal battle with a husband who is bent upon to take divorce from unwilling wife.
He is actually wanting to give me a divorce without any alimony- can he do that?
No. But quantum of alimony depends upon various factors and it is not the right stage to ponder over that question as you are interested to keep the marriage alive.
I don't want a divorce- I want him to come back. Can he take a divorce on the basis of mental trauma and can his witnesses to our arguments make his case strong.
Then it is difficult for him to get divorce, if you are not guilty of giving him mental trauma.
I have only aphoto of my bruised face when he hit me with hangers. Will that help? However, finally I want to save my marriage and not let him take a divorce.HELP!
He is liable to be put behind the bars for physically abusing you and law gives you scope to do so to him. But your craving for restoring matrimonial life will not allow you to take such logical step.