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Can loans raised by my dad to help my bro's buss. affect me?

1. My wife and myself are well settled in US from last 14 years and have multiple kids.

2. I have left my house in India to my parents so that they can continue to stay.

3. In 2010 trip to India, my wife and myself realized that my parents are coming up with various ploys to grab my house.

4. From past few months, my parents along with the help of my younger brother are coming up with multiple schemes such as purposely moving out of house, acting as if they have sent the

house key, asking me to rent my house, etc, so that they can make a false claim that I am not taking care of my parents. I was able to understand this ploy, contacted Elders helpline (

Parents maintenance act) and apprised them the situation. This was a severe blow to their plan.

5. Recently I realized that my younger brother is going through severe financial crisis, hence trying to work with him from past 8 months to ensure my parents make my house as their main

stay. Also, I would be in position to take care of their food and other expenditures ( till my brother is back to normal to contribute his portion towards my parents maintenance).

6. My brother owns Java training institutes in multiple locations within the city. Recently I heard that most of his institutions got closed due to poor response.

7. I know that my parents are conniving, but my brother is a dimwit, can be easily manipulated. He doesn't have capability to think on his own.

8. My parents might have played lots of game in his financial dealings since my dad was the CFO for his training institutes :-).

9. I heard that my parents and my brother have taken loans from many people and are not in position to pay them back. When I ask him whether he is financially doing OK, he says yes.

10. My parents and my brother have distanced away from everybody. Except my brother's parents-in-law, nobody else knows their whereabouts.

11. Would these financial mess what these people have created , would it affect me in any manner? Both my brother and myself are in 40s. My dad has taken some loans with my neighbors, and

these neighbors are trying to locate them (in the pretext of helping my brother, my dad would have raised these loans, but might have swallowed most of it).

12. Most likely my parents would contact Elders helpline and tell them that they need security and can't come back to my house.

HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS SITUATION?

Here is the additional details on my parent -

A. Other than house stay, I have given more than 20 lakhs in cash from last 14 years (bank transfers) + 4 US trips to my dad and mom + 1 Singapore trip to my parents.

B. I am continuing to take care of utility bills of my house in India.

C. Total contribution towards them will be more than 40 lakhs in last 14 years ( have proof).

D. As first son, I have properly taken care of my parents, still taking care of them ( by providing house + take care of its utilities) and will continue to take care of them for their entire lifetime.

For more details - please refer https://www.lawyersclubindia.com/forum/Parents-maintenance-and-deserted-house-48895.asp

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Prasad (Systems Engineer) 17 August 2014

Hello Mr.Oscar,

Following is the legal reply as per my knowledge. I am not a legal expert.

I believe you should file a police complaint to find out the whereabouts of your respectful father and beloved "younger" brother.

This way you can prove that you care for your parents and brother.

Also show all the proof of your bank transactions to your father.

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Prasad, sorry to tell you that your reply made me to laugh! Probably we may not want to get into preaching others about moral value. I am a responsible son as well a responsible husband to my wife and responsible dad to my 4 kids. I am already 40+ years old. I won't need anybody to conduct moral science classes.

Please don't become emotional. I did go through your various postings. I have a wonderful, beautiful, dutiful, responsible wife. So how about me giving 1 hour sermon to you on how to treat your wife since you have described your wife in an extremely horrible manner. "CRUEL", walking around nude, her father using henchmen to beat up your parents and yourself, your wife smacking at you and locking you in the bathroom. Well, one part that I didn't understand is "hiding your things". Hey man, your postings really stinks :-)

Here is an extract from one of your postings -

>>>>"Here is part of the cruelty that I went through in 10 months that I was with my wife.

>>>>Cruelty include abusive language, beating, suicide threats, locking me in bathroom,

>>>>hiding under the bed, hiding my things, throwing things out of kitchen and making me to bring it,

>>>>lying in the floor eyes wide open for a long time, demanding 2 sovereigns of gold to be given every month,

>>>>threatening to go out of the bed room nude, Threatening to go to women police station in the middle of the night, suddenly vanishing while walking on the road etc…"

Also what made you to think that my wife may be manipulative? Basic question, why are you generalizing everybody's wives? Your mother is also wife of your dad right? Does your view holds good even for your mother?

Hey Prasad, how about your father-in-law? You have described him as if he is a satan. He is also an elderly person and father to your wife, right? He would have taken so much of pain to raise your wife. Wow, and your wife is a MCA graduate. How much of pain he might have gone through to raise her up, provide her excellent education. And you are insulting him and your wife in public?

My sincere advice. Please start using your common sense. Don't dare generalize everybody.

I am not running away from my responsibilities. I am unfortunate that my parents are manipulative. Their manipulativeness more or less destroyed my younger brother's family. I was smart enough to save myself and my family. I tried my level best to warn my younger brother, but nothing works. He is bit alcoholic. My parents are using his weakness to achieve their goals. His wife, his kids and her parents are also suffering because of this drama. He is not able to understand such a simple thing that his kids are growing up and he needs to be more responsible. Good amount of my hard-earned money has already gone wasted.