Can someone help me?

Ask your wife , if she will give you mutual divorce. It is easy and you will get it in 6 months.

Seems to be your illusion that she is cheating upon you and without any solid reasons behind the feeling you are ready to break a relationship give a second thought as life after divorce would not be good and you may or may not find another partner

I got on 27^th Nov,2009.Some days after I was made to understand that she is suffering from impotency because of the fact that she could not satisfy me as a s*xual partner & she had problem with Period also. On my approach for her medical treatment, she herself along with her parents used to threaten me with the comment that in doing so, they will take the help of Law. Off & on she & her family used filthy language towards my father & mother. She used to talk over mobile phone with some male person which was not known to me, using slang languages. Once I discovered some dirty massages in her mobile sent by one of her boyfriend. She behaved like this as if to prove that she was very s*xy & everybody admires that.

On 15^th April, 2010, myself again proposed for her treatment by some Gynecologist. Knowing fully well that the truth will come into light, she contacted with her Father & Mother over mobile phone, reporting that she has been beaten by me. To escape or evade the situation (proposal for treatment by Gynecologist), her parents along with their other relatives by TATA SUMO arrived at my residence on the same day. With the help of their daughter, her parents took all the Golden Ornaments- Some of which given at the time of marriage, some of which was my mother’s golden ornaments worth of Rs. Three Lakh was kept in same locker where my wife kept her own ornaments got from her Parents. They also took five big size bags full of all valuable cloths, some silver ornaments and the key of the almirah and left my residence on the same day.

My father lodged a written complaint at local Thana, Ranaghat about the incident on the same day ie. On 15th April, 2010. Subsequently, she was requested by me to come to my residence but she denied. She also denied that they have not taken anything about the alleged golden ornaments & valuable cloths. But in course of conversation , her father’s elder brother & his wife confessed the genuiness of taking golden ornaments etc with them on 15^th April, 2010 when leaving my residence.At the instant time her father was approached to make a written list of articles being taken by them. When he commented that all the articles are taken for use purpose.

After that near about 15 days were over and I told them over mobile phone to come home but they denied, they also denied of taking my mothers golden ornaments but thanks god they confessed of taking the golden ornaments what she brought from her home. And all these conversation I recorded in my mobile phone.

Being absolutely upset,myself take the help of law and submitted  prayer for separation to Krishnanagar Judge court on 5^th May 2010. Because only four & half months were over she left her matrimony from the day of marriage.

After a lapse of more than four months, a case was filed by them Under IPC 498/A at Rupnarayanpur Thana which is in other juridiction. Once in a week, I used to come my residance from Durgapur(my service place)which was known to them. As such on 5^th Aug/2010 her father along with local police & two unknown person with sound health arrived at Durgapur railway station and arrested myself.I was taken to Rupnarayanpur Thana. I.O of the police called her father & my wife ,where she commented that if ‘divorce’ was not prayed for,such action would have not  been taken by them. Thereafter police sent me to Asansole Court on 6^th Aug/2010. I was released on ‘Bail’ on the next day(7^th Aug 2010).Subsequently I came to know that many of my relatives werecincluded in the case as accused. By god’s grace all of them were released on ‘Bail’. I was surprised knowing that I have never seen those seven people gave the I witness in 498/A from their side except her father.

During last one year & nine months  the other party, not attending the separation case and even they somehow are suppressing the A/D of the registry post  from the postoffice. So no judgement has yet been given by the court.

Mean while as such trial for case 498/A not been started Because I was waiting for her to attent the separation case for praying to grant her medical test. Further I came to know that on 27^th April 2011 they have lodged a case under Section 406 claiming for assets amounting five lakhs Rupees.But in reality the assets(oneAlmirah,one derssing table,one dress hanger,one cottage-that too not in 406 claiming list & one mattress)forcefully given by them are kept in my residence in packing condition since she left her matrimony. They made a false statement in both 498/A & 406 that all of my relatives against whom allegation was made by them used to stay at my residance in Mess-system. Hence they were included in the allegation list.But in fact the alleged persons all of them stay at their own house. They also made a false statement in 406 that once they came my residance as well as local thana of my residance for those assets which cost Rs.500000/- & we denied.Then they filed IPC406 & prayed for search warrant. But still nobody came to take the assets kept in my residance. Now out of court they are demanding a huge amount for the dismiss of case and mutual devorce.

I came to know that during last one year & nine months in five occassions, registered letter issued by the court to the address given by other party, could not be served or somehow been suppressed and the acknowledgement also was not received by the court. But the cause of which was not known. So the divorce case is still pending.

I am very upset & I don’t know what will be my next step to get devorce.

From your situation I can understand you need some consutation. See in this world every people are mad.

some are for money, some are for position, some are for fame, some are for s*x and some are for love. May be in your life love is important .This is normal to have fear of losing important thing. In your line  

you have mentioned you are loving her. But are you sure she aso loves you. If  she loves you then no need 

to go to the psychiatrist. She is the right person to help you to come out from this situation or she 

may be from other category of people. Do not take deciscin like that. First discuss with you parents, 

friends, relatives. May be they can help you. love but do not expect love in return. Try to love yourself. 

Because life is to short to enjoy the world .Try to spent time with your firends .And one thing 

check wheather she have link with the psychiatrist or not.

To Mr Partha it will be better to consult with a advocate. Because the journey you are in is not so easy .May be you are showing weakness that why oppsition party are doing this. If this type of things are going so smoothly then no women in India will work and they can marry to any inncent boy and can file 498a and can ask for money. Try to take the help of law. Many laws are there to prove her impotency.

I went to psychiatrist. He said that I am not normal person.

is the doctor a THIRD PARTY ??

are u sure that the doctor is not acting IN COLLUSION with ur wife ??

They called me and said that they will kill me if I will take doubt in future. Our daughter is an innocent girl. Her brother also called me and said that, he will give “Supari” to someone to kill me if I will repeat this thing.

this is the end of relationship.

I AM SMELLING IMPENDING 498A.

I strongly disagreee with all the above suggestions.

Mr Common man says " Iam ready to give her my property". This is not just a statement, it speaks of the plight that this gentleman is going through.

Harassed by wife's adulterous nature, a honest and simple man can only think of just getting away from her at any cost (This seems like in this case). So he can't be justified for an excessive mental disorder, can he be?

Solutions: Talk to her and be stern mentally while exhibiting your flexible nature. Don't care for her she is not worth a dekko. Talk about an amiciable divorce or else be prepared for a long stretched drama (498a/DV/406). But anyways its what we choose now is going to shape your future. I am a bit hardcore guy (being an ex army personnel), my thinkings are no so complex and are based upon simple solutions and understandings. See if you can manage and ignore the adulterous nature of your wife and can stay with her and feel happy about not being dragged in 498a, then go for it. Or else live a respectful life (in your own eyes) with a courage to face they XYZ cases for atleast 7-8 years. Baaki its your own choice.

Good Luck!

Regards,

Rohit

@ Partha Chatterjee

what have u started in this thread ?

ss.. Sir, Our politeness towards her & her family was my weakness.

Sir,I want to go for Null & void marriage. But I dont know Wheather I can file it or not when a separation case is still pending. Or if Im wrong.

If your wife is taking with 20 boys..you talk to 200 females...make sure you do not have any dearth of females in your life..this is your only solution...

One day you will be bored of all females and your insecurity will completely vanish....

This is how human beings are...our mind works in extremes...a person who is crazy about s*x, he will one day be practicing celebacy...see we have people in history who have become completely opposite of what they used to be...see Ashoka, Valmiki...and there are many...

The right example in front of you is Vijay Mallaya...look how he is enjoying his life...king size..

Let your wife do it..you also start doing it...she will also understand...you feel it more because you are not doing anything....

Dont give much importance to your wife..let he edo what she wants...if you say..she will call you INTROVERT AND INSECURE...just practice what I said...this may not be posible now..but keep this thing in mind....

Now if she complaints..THEN YOU CALL HE INSECURE...TELL HER "DOSTI KARNA PAAP HAI KYA?"

I AM SURE THIS WAY YOUR MARRIAGE WILL NOT BREAK...BUT IF YOU CONTINUE LIKE THIS...IT WILL SURELY....

EG: IF YOU WOO  A GIRL TOO MUCH, SHE WILL NEGLECT YOU AND BECUASE SHE WILL THINK (MIND YOU ...SHE WILL ONLY THINK AND NOTHING ELSE)...THAT YOU ARE NOT OF HER LEVEL...AND TRY TO FIND SOMEONE ELSE...IF YOU DONT GIVE HER ANY IMPORANTANCE...HE WILL RUN AFTER YOU...

REMEMBER..MARRIAGE, FRIENDSHIPS, ETC ETC ARE ALWASY BETWEEN EQUALS...

THIS IS YOUR ONLY SOLUTION....

GAUTAM

Wait a Minute Partha.

Visit a psychatrist on your own and not with her.

Go through a treatment of therapy for atleast 3 months and then decide.

Regards,

Shonee Kapoor

harassed.by.498a@gmail.com

Mr commmonman kick out that lady from your life by divorcing.