Hi All,
This is Shilpa. I got married in Nov 2008. My husband and my in-laws had demanded for a property to be registered in my husband’s name and my parents promised to give the property after the education loan on the property was cleared by them. I am a MS/MBA graduated from Australia. My husband neither allowed me to work nor did he allow me to apply for my visa. His mom tortured me at home by verbally abusing me and harassed me both mentally and physically soon after marriage and my husband who showed love to me soon joined his mom in all her b*tchy activities against me. The sole reason was property which was supposed to be registered under my husband’s name. Later my husband and myself were sent out of the house by my MIL for the most silliest reason after which we started to live separately.
My husband was fine with me after that but there were few physical harassment here and there by him… and we did fight a couple of times because of his mum’s b*tchy behavior. The sad part of the whole story is that both my husband and my MIL had planned to leave that country in October 2009. And my husband left his job here and said he will be going abroad and that he will get me there after he finds a job… he said he had no money to get my visa done when he got his. I have got all his bank statement recently which says he had enough money for my visa. unfortunately, he has taken his mom with him without my knowledge. He left me at my mum’s place. And then he sends me an email saying he doesn’t want to keep in touch with me… and sent me a RCR notice soon after that which read “I tortured his mom and him, I threw her clothes and food and stuff” and that I should join him within 15 days of the RCR notice. Neither did I have a visa to join him nor did I know where he lived.
I still don’t understand why he sent me RCR notice when things were absolutely fine between us. What are his intentions? I never deserted him… he deserted me and he sends a RCR notice? That’s weird!!!
And he claimed he was in Dubai every time he called me(He had a business visa sponsored by his friend) while he lived in London(he had a UK work permit)
As I knew their sole intention was always the property I filed a 498A and 3&4 DP Act against my in-laws and my husband. Police have got them back to India. They have come back a month ago. They have got a bail now. I am living in my matrimonial home now with my mum as I can’t live alone here. After getting a bail now he spreads rumors on me saying I am characterless and that I am drunkard and a flirt. He has gained all his friends sympathy by spreading dirty rumors on me. I was being understanding and tried to compromise on everything he wanted. But he is still not satisfied and sends a notice for no reason? I also have spoken to a friend of his in London and she has forwarded all the emails he has sent to her to gain sympathy so she can help him when he is in London. In that email he very clearly says that he wants to go away from me and look after his mom. These emails are written to her when he lived with me and pretended like he loved me lots.
I have also filed a suit on all their property and also applied for maintenance since I am a housewife now. They haven’t come home even after the bail.
My questions are:
- Why did he send a RCR notice? What do you think his intentions are?
I DO NOT want to divorce him. I want to save this marriage as much as possible. If its not possible. Then I want them to end up in Jail. They can’t spoil someone life in just 10 months. My parents have spent a hell lot of money on this wedding. I want either a happy family or they should end up in Jail. I will not divorce him.
Cheers :)
Shilpa
