I am a resident of Hyderabad, India but working in Singapore since 5yrs now. I got married when I was 19yrs old but now got divorced and have a son of age 7yrs. I came to Singapore with the impression that I should live for my son overcoming all the suicidal tendencies and also not to be a burden for my family. My father had actually got me married forcibly saying that the family is good and all but later after seeing the torture and violence I had to go through he regretted his decision and supported me to go to Singapore and stand up on my own feet. Thinking and feeling guilty about his decision in my life, my father even passed away in 2006. Somehow, With God's blessings I was leading a rather peaceful life if not happy but still I was content with my job and my life also I had the great satisfaction that I was bringing up my son without being dependent on anyone and could provide everything for him making him happy. In the meantime I also got my divorce settled.
Suddenly in 2007 while still in Singapore, there was this person from Tamilnadu who became friend with me and he started liking me and said he was in love with me and thereby wants to marry me. Then itself I told him what had happened to me and what are all the difficulties I had faced to come to this stage of life. I told him I was not up to any casual flirting and not interested in anything as such. But he said he was also not trying to take advantage of me but was genuinely interested in me and wanted to marry me. He also embraced my son which gave me even more confidence to trust him. I thought God had sent this person to me to be my companion and is giving me another chance to have a stable family. We were also living together while in Singapore for nine months. He made me believe that I am his wife and I also confided in him thereby allowing him to be my husband. We went to Chennai to our friend place in Mar 2009 and had a simple marriage ceremony. He applied vermilion (sindoor), exchanged garlands and we exchanged rings said that I am his wife and he will tie the thali (Mangalsutra) after convincing his parents. My Friend and his family were also present with us while all this. We stayed three days there and after this he went to his home town to inform and speak to his parents. Once he went he changed his number and stopped interaction with me. Later he sent me a email saying his parents are not accepting this marriage and are going to die if he is accepting me. He doesn’t want to loose his parents so is ditching me.
First my parents without thinking about me had pushed me into marriage at a young age and that person took advantage of me, abused, tortured, humiliated and ruined me bodily and left me to fend for myself. Forgetting all that and accepting what life had given to me, somehow I got courage to carry on in my life, again this person entered my life I don’t know with what purpose but yet again ruined and devastated me physically, mentally and emotionally. I hope you can imagine the pain, humiliation, mental and emotional turmoil I am going through. I am unable to think about tomorrow. My self esteem is hurt, confidence is lost in life to live. I feel being a girl is a disguise atleast for me. How much ever I manage to pick up the pieces in life and get along that much people keep hurting my values and emotions. I feel my life is cursed and being born as a girl is even more cursed. I feel there is no justice in this world. Can anyone help me what how i will get justice for my situation. plssss
