Compatability problem with my wife

hi vivek,

has she filed any cases against you as yet?

is she with you at the moment or with your parents.?

has she ever complained against you at any police station?

beware, as she might file false cases against you like 498a DV etc. hence take preemptive steps first, hire a good advocate and narrate your true and honest story, and take steps next. if she has not complained against you, i would advise you to approach the womens cell of police and narrate your experience first in writing and let them summon her for counselling. if you apporoach the police first, your case will be stronger in future. this is what my advice. i hope the other learned members agree to my advice. also advice you to refer to advice of TAJOBS in this forum, he will definitely give an excellent advice on your case

Hi Vivek,
I am also going through the same issue of 'compatability' with my wife.

Wish to be advised on the following from lawyers :
1) What pre-emptive action can i take before she files a false DV case ?
2) Can i file for divorce ? if Yes, on what grounds ? (does 'incompatability' hold good in law ?)
3) We donot have a kid yet, and i am deciding not to go for Kid until our issues are resolved. is this decision OK? can such a decision backfire in the divorce process ?
4) I have 2 flats in my name (1 where i am a single owner and 2nd where i am joint owner with my mother). What should i do about these flats in order to protect my interests?
 

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Hi Vivek, I feel sorry for what you going through. Taking recourse of law should be last option while dealing with family matters. Is your wife a housewife? If yes then try to get her some job , as you said family members does not stay with you in that case it is highly advisable that she must do something to keep herself busy. As far as using you like credit card is concerned you can always control it,  except for logical expenses dont allow her to waste your money. Passing comments on parents is the worst thing any spouse can do, you need to tell her clearly that you cannot tolerate this. At same time keep your cool. It must have taken lots of efforts for you to get married and now if you chose to get rid of your wife then whats the guarantee that you would get understanding partner in future. 

My wife is working lady. she works in small finance company .

Unfortunate to write all this , but this is what happening. Regarding money matter, Your point is correct, but i thought 

might be she will understand that i dont care for money, just want something else from her.

 I asked her to browse some online guides for happy married life but unfortunately she is not interested and used to preach me.

Even I asked her, what is she expecting from me. But she says she don’t have any expectation. I asked her to give one her month where she simply follow me,if she find anything wrong then anyway things will be not worse.

But she is not agreeing for this also.  I end up doing all of my house hold 

works, dropping her at office, picking up.Fortunately my current organisation is providing timing flexibility so i am able 

to manage. But does not appreciate anything. She does not believe in any creative work, neither in cooking. She only 

dose facebook and keep watching others scrap book. 

As you mentiond to keep the cool, that is what i am doing. But dont know how long it will go. 

Since her parents are not supporting me to get things better so finally i decided to take advice on this. 

Whereas the matter of getting life partner again , this is enough for me in this life.

Now I just want to know what should I do where less trouble should be caused to my parents?

As suggested by sanjeev pawar, is going to women cell is good option?

Just to highlight again, her uncle is CJM, so please suggest the best possible option.

Hi Vivek,

If your wife is really full of hatred for you then i don't feel going to women cell would help. Women cell would definitely listen to her side as well and what if she speaks bad about you or makes up some story against you? You need not fear of her uncle being CJM but do contact a lawyer as she is giving threats of filing false cases. Marriage counselling might have helped, but your wife is not ready. My advice would be to get in touch with an advocate in your area and explain him everything.