Hi -
I was married in 2003 to a man--after the marriage I found out that he was gay. I was kept in their like a prisioner and they wouldn't even let me go out anywhere even to my mother's house. Somehow with my collegues' help I pass on the message to my parents who came and rescued me. Within 3 months of marriage it got anulled. Even after coming out they tortured me badly by making calls to my home phone no and speaking very indecently. Finally however we were able to get divorce from him through court.
Now after six years my parents arranged a marriage for me with another man. My parents explained my situation to him and he agreed to keep me happy. Infact it was his uncle who brought the proposal as he knew my parents. He had a temporary job in a school and I'm holding a Professor's job in a reputed college. Since his family was not well to do we took care of all the expenses of the marriage and including the 'thaali' chain and clothes for him, his mother and sisters. Initially he behaved well but soon he started speaking harshly and demanding all my salary and atm card and bank passbook be submitted to his mother. When i refused his mother called me and threatened that he would leave me. Meanwhile my parents looked out for many job interviews in some known schools but he refused to go to work at all.
One day when I went to college all of a sudden he vanished from home. I was pregnant during this time. For 2 days he did not show up and on the third day he sent an sms saying he wants divorce. I was devastated since this was my second marriage I did not want it to go wrong. But then he started abusing my parents and started sending derogatory emails to me, my parents and even my brother's wife. He accused me very badly and wrote such defamatory emails that made me cringe. During this time I was in my final terms of pregnancy and was scared of how the baby is going to be born due to my stress levels. But fortunately I had a safe normal delivery.
Now, he lodged a police complaint accusing my brother of planning to murder him. We went to the police station and showed them the sms & emails he sent. We asked to be diverted to the court as this is civil case. Then he sent a lawyer's notice saying that he lodged a complaint only because he wanted to see me. Again he has lodged a complaint in a women's police station in my homewtown accusing my mother of separating us. Since I was not in that city my mother went to the station and met the inspector. The station inspector spoke to me over phone and asked me to come to the station but I told her that I couldn't come as I just delivered my baby and I'm on maternity leave and cant go out anywhere now. I'm being harrased a lot.
In all this while I've never given even a complaint against all the things he has done. While running away from my home he has taken my mother's chain as well. Instead I've been waiting so that he would change and regret his actions. But it looks like every day he's getting worser and worser.
Could you suggest what I should do?
