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Roshni B.. (For justice and dignity)     27 May 2011

Why not try abused daughter's parents 4 ignoring her plight?

In india,mostly when a girl is abused immensely in her matrimonial home,she conveys her plight to parents by writing them letters,by telephoning and so on.here i am not referring to petty quarrels with her inlaws and husband.

 

here i am referring to proper abuses,like:

 

  • depriving her of food.

 

  • keeping her captive in the house and not letting her socialize with the outside world

 

 

  • physically abusing her (hair pulling,kicking,slapping,punching,etc.)over dowry demands,for being ugly or dark complexioned.for being infertile,for not bearing a male child,for being overweight and so on

 

  • threats of being killed if she tries to complain to neighbours about getting abused,about taking any legal action with inlaws for their abuses,or if she objects to her husband's adultery

 

despite hearing the daughter's ordeal,many parents take it lightly and dont protect her.they keep asking her to "ADJUST" with the above abuses.sometimes they harass her verbally if she tries to take legal action upon her inlaws and offer her no support.If she comes to live with them for some time to get some peace,they make her life also hellish and force her to return to that abusive household again.

 

so many such daughters who are forced to "tolerate" all this,go into a depression,get a nervous breakdown or even become insane.If they become insane, these inlaws get a good chance to push her into an asylum,succeed in proving her mad in courts and get the son remarried.but no one notes her plight.all the while,these daughters' parents act as mute spectators.

in many cases,so many such daughters who don't want to suffer any further commit suicide,or get killed by inlaws.when it gets reported to police or in media,then only these parents wake up and realise the value of their daughter's ordeal which she used to share in the past.but by then it's too late.

 

the duty of daughters' parents gets over after marriage.this is what many such parents think and they dont care if the daughter is being treated like a human being or not in her matrimonial home.All they care for is their prestige in society.

 

so,my  point here is:

 

Once inlaws' harassment towards the daughter-inlaw is PROVEN as the cause of her murder OR suicide,OR her inasanity OR her nervous breakdown,they will get punished no doubt.

 

But if it's also PROVEN alongside that the parents who  were always  v.well aware of her plight through letters,SOS calls,etc did not protect her,should they also get punished for their selfishness and inability to protect her?If they had done so,maybe her life could have been saved.Maybe she have been saved from going into a depression/breakdown.

If the courts start taking action upon such parents also,dowry killings,suicides,and even GENUINE DV cases will drastically reduce..

Please share your views..



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zimmerzapper (student)     27 May 2011

yes they should be tried

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Roshni B.. (For justice and dignity)     27 May 2011

Read the below news to see the result of not taking an aggrieved married woman seriously .This married woman was an orphan.But I am sure that when her parents were alive,they were facing dowry demands.Yet they may not have taken their daughter's woes seriously.They did not realise what would become of their daughter once they die.She will be at  the mercy of her husband/inlaw.

 

 

Leaving her parents' matter aside,I am sure she had her own relatives.However none turned up to rescue this orphan from the clutches of her barbaric husband and mother inlaw.

 

RESULT-She became mentally ill and confined to 1 room,with a naked body for 14 yrs.

 

 

 

 

 

Woman tortured for 14 years in Kolkata

 

 

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A woman was kept chained naked to a bed in a dirty room for 14 years by her husband and mother-in-law at Baruipur in the southern fringes of the city. Madhabi Das (40) was rescued by her neighbours on Saturday and her torturers were arrested. Madhabi’s woes began ever since the death of her parents GA_googleFillSlot("ht_story_top_lhs_200x200");in Basanti in South 24 Parganas district. Not content with the huge dowry, her husband Madhab and mother-in-law Amala tortured and starved her because the steady stream of money had dried up. Madhabi’s daughter Tusi, who appeared for her higher secondary exam this year, remained a silent spectator.

 

All earlier attempts to rescue Madhabi had failed but on Saturday members of a local club managed to enter the room inside the house at Uma Charan Roy Road where she was kept confined.

 

Madhab, who runs a grocery shop near Baruipur Station Bazar, claimed that Madhabi was mentally deranged and that she would often turn violent. But neighbours said Madhabi had tried to cover her bare body on seeing them and that proves that she was in her senses.

 

The police will consult psychiatrists to verify Madhab’s claims but for now Madhabi has been admitted to Baruipur hospital and from there she may sent to Antara, a home for the mentally ill.

 

One of Madhabi’s rescuers, Raju Rudra, said constant torture had made Madhabi lose her mental balance but hoped that proper treatment can help her to regain her senses, Rudra said.

 

Another neighbour Dipa Sur said that the local people had been informing the police about the torture, but nothing can be done, "as whenever we went to rescue her, Amala used to abuse us and say filthy words".

The torture is evident as some of the neighbours said that often they had seen Madhabi had been found tied to the cot with her hair and had also been chained. Dipa also added that Amala used to torture her and used to throw burning coal on her body. Even Madhab used to burn her with burning cigarette and she used to cry. Even the daughter turned part of the assault team, Dipa said.

Today many people had gathered infront of the two storeyed house of the Das family and as Madhabi was shouting in pain while she was being tortured some of the club members forced their entry into the house. she was kept confined in a room filled with dirt.

The three family members were remanded in police custody for further interrogation. Madhab however told police that as Madhabi was insane and no treatment yielded result so she was chained. The police are verifying his statement and for that they are taking opinion from psychiatrists.

Even Madhab complained to police that she had once left home with another local trader and had filed a case against him.

 

 

https://www.hindustantimes.com/Woman-tortured-for-14-years-in-Kolkata/Article1-219166.aspx

 

zimmerzapper (student)     28 May 2011

dear roshni, i know, imo there won't be anything wrong with her psychologically, it's the family who gang up on helpless and marginalize their position and say mental(this is infuriating).


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