The things that you mentioned in the email are not serious in nature to warrant divorce in the eyes of law. Further, how will you prove all these things?
Strongly suggest to see a marriage counselor first. With these points divorce not possible, If lawyer advises you that you can get divorce by the following points, he is lying. Think before you act
These are all the points, please do correct them, so that I keep them on the record when giving to a lawyer.
In the initial days, her father used to come very frequently and used to take their house very frequently without my mother's or my permission, and if asked used to shout at us. Her father once called on phone at early 1 a.m. and shouted at my mother, and my aunts using foul language under drunken influence.
What proofs do you have for the same? Events of earlier days won’t hold much grounds if lot of time has elapsed. In fact, restricting your wife to visit her parents can be proved as mental cruelty by you on her.
When a caste meeting held and when asked about the above mentioned issue, he accepted that it is wrong on him and told that he will never do that wrong and then we took my wife to my place.
So the matter was solved by intervention of elders. No case of mental cruelty
Neighbors when they talk to me in respectable manner, she used to exploit and defame me by shouting at me aloud so that neighbors hear. The same happened at various locations where we used to stay at any house on rent. Whenever, we shifted to a new place, she used to use more water and more water always washing more clothes even though not necessary, which made other co-tenants angry, which would lead to altercation; and alternatively she used to shout at me aloud with intention to exploit me, so that people around disrespect me. By this erroneous behaviour I happened to change many locations spending lot of money on shifting and paying advances.
These are trivial matters in the eyes of the court. How will you prove this anyways?
Whenever there is any festival, she used to perform all poojas till 3 p.m. without preparing tea and food even for me and my children. If we ask to cook first and then go for pooja, she used to shout at me and some times at my mother as well.
Doing religious poojas during festivals is a good thing in the eyes of society, can’t you compromise for few festival days if she cooks later, again a trivial matter
Whenever I am tired, or feeling sad about anything about my office issues, etc, she used to observe and start yelling at me, so that I feel more and more worried and depressed instead of proving peace of mind at home; this many times made me suffer a lot mentally.
Normal wear and tear in day to day relationship is usual in any matrimonial relationship
She used to watch for the last week of every month, and whenever I am struggling to adjust money for daily commodities, she used to waste lot of sweet oil, sugar and other daily commodities wantedly and she forced me to bring for more; this happens every month. She knows my salary is 8000.00 and always she looks that no money is left with me by making me spend on more things by wasting sweet oil, sugar, milk like commodities, this caused more and more mental agony as I could not perform savings for my children or myself.
Very trivial matter in eyes of law
At one of the places, where we used to stay for rent, she used to take curries and other food items to neighbors home and she used to serve me only some. Lot of times she used to take chappaties, dosas preparing more than required to serve to neighbors, which in turn has an effect on my purse where I have spend more money what is needed for my small family.
Looks like you financial situation is the cause here and not your wife’s behaviour
She used to quarrel for days together shouting and yelling that I have bring their family members to my place and spend time as per her will and wish. When the same is conveyed to their parents via our elders, they used to tell her daughter not to, but the same thing used to repeat 2 to 3 months time, which makes me mentally upset most of the times.
Look at the real issue hidden somewhere beneath
As I am working from home, the above things showed a tremendous affect on my job performance, which led to low income month by month. And when I feeling sad about this, she took this opportunity and used to shout and yell like anything on petty things more and more.
Looks like your frustration on the career front is taking a toll on the relationship, take responsibility and don’t shift the blame on the wife
When I am working in my shift hours, instead of taking care and managing my 2 children, she used to leave them in the house, for which reason, I have to take frequent breaks to manage and look after my children and which made me worry more because this situation lowered my target, which in turn has an affect on my performance and salary as a whole.
You should have thought of these before you decided to produce children, whether you are ready for taking responsibility, this point can backfire on you
She used to see for a time when I am seriously working and exactaly at that point in time, she would start yelling and shouting, which used to make me very disturbed, in turn shows adverse affect on my job.
Can’t be proved
I have all evidences of the houses where I stayed for rent (power bills), etc.
When I go out for any work, she calls me on phone very frequently asking where I am and why I am there even though I specifically inform her when leaving the home; and when I explain that on phone and when I return to home, at that moment, she used to be ready to yell and starts shouting at me, which makes neighhour disturb, in turn they complain to the owners and they used to warn and asked to vacate the house if any further altercation occurs. this situation causes me very disturbing mindset, frurstating because I have to arrange money for shifting of house, and I have search for a new house in turn pay advance; which led to mental tyranny and used to lead a very compromising life situtaion.
Please look within, the problem is somewhere else
Keeping in view of my lovely 2 daughters, I am facing this kind of situation very amicably, but it is very very frustrating as my source of income is being affected.
She used to go to her parent's house very frequently 2 times in a week along with my children, and at all times my children would suffer from fever, cold, and cough whenever she takes my children to their parent's house and many times I took my children to hospital as soon as they come from her parents house. When i told that it is not possible for me to come to their very frequently as it affects my job, she used to shout and yell like anything. Even her parents are not bothered about my job or situations at my end. This frequent commutation affected my children health all the time for which I have evidences of medical prescriptttions.
Her parents and her brothers ill-treated me and always they used to drink alcohol and always force me to do the same. I am social drinker, and that too very rarely.
Again this statement will highlight your immaturity, nobody can force to drink alcohol to an adult
At one time, when I started working on my computer, she started shouting all of a sudden that because of me her father got hypertension and diabetes, it seems and when I answered her she shouted at me for which I too answered and keeping in this in mind, she went to her house and asked me to come there. I dropped her at her house, had tea there and I had returned to my place, which is 10-15 km away from her parent's house, she started calling me on phone frequently when I am with my friends place.
After my first daughter, I thought of having only one daughter due to my financial grounds, but she insisted to have another one; so I said okay and told her that after 1 or 2 years we can go for another one. We, together decided for family planning I sometimes used condoms and she used to refuse that saying that she is allergic to condoms, so I bought her pills after contacting a qualified lady doctor , but even then she said that pills are harming her health and she wants to stop them. day s went on like this, and one day, her brother casually met my uncle(my mothers elder brother) and told him that I am using pills and condoms. Here, I wanted to say that this is very much a personal issue which is to be discussed between a wife and husband, which has been informed to their parents and brother by my wife, which made me feel absurd and guilty for this kind of situation.
Having another daughter cannot be forced on you, again this will go against you. difficult to prove.
At one place, she used to always say that she is suffering from back pain and creates a situation which compels me to take there to a qualified lady doctor. this used to happen every month for which I have to spent Rs. 1500 to 2000 every month, but she never used to take medications in full. She used to use medications for 1 or 2 days and the rest she used to throw away. this tells us that she wantedly does this so that I spend more money for no use.
She used to prepare food very tastily only on the 2 days prior and after the day I get my salary and after that she used to prepare food very badly, which I was not able to eat in lunch at my office, where I had to go to canteen.
