Greetings!
Have been unhappily married for the past 11 years. Of these 11 years my husband has been jobless for 7 years and has been living of my earnings citing that he is unable to find a suitable job.
We were classmates and have graduated on the same day and are equally qualified. Inspite of this, I have had to pull the cart with my earnings, pay for EMI's on home loans, car loans, rents as we stay in a rented premise. all expenses including holidays and entertainment.
Am also a mother of 2 children and have had to work without a break through both my pregnancies. Inspite of having fatal complications in the second pregnancy , I was disallowed a break as I had to play the role of the breadwinner to ensure no EMI's are skipped.
My inlaws inspite of living in the same city never allowed us to stay together and help with the kids, citing they are old and this gave my husband more grounds to justify himself not working and pretend he was taking care of the house, ofcourse with 5 maids for which I was required to pay.
Fortunately or Unfortunately, my second daughter is borne with a rare genetic disorder, due to which my husband was forced to take care of her. Since her case is terminal , she requires extreme nurturing.
She is 4 years old today and finally 4 months back, my husband who was severely faultering at looking after her, not feeding her for 12 hours in a day at a stretch , citing all sorts of excuses, just abusing both the daughters, one day decided to get up and walk away as I resigned from my work and returned home to tell him I and my kids can no longer take this nonsense in life.
He has been totally absconding since. the rental house in licensed in his name but he has never paid ay rents, and he has been shameless enough to ask the LL for the deposit. His parents are siding him stating his wife and children are a curse on his life and he should leave us inorder to get the property from them.
They are avoiding all contact with me and the kids and do not even respond to any message. Have in one response refused to take any financial responsibility for me and the kids.
Need a few experts here to give me a brief guidance to initiate a legal proceeding to end and get out of this marraige and make them take their responsibility, I am no longer working and am unable to leave a terminally ill child and go to work and earn a living leaving her in her condition, Have another daughter who is normal and serious expenses to manage.
Please revert asap.