Matrimonial terrorism

Hi Law Abiding Citizen,

I can understand the pain that you are going through.

You are not alone.

You are one of the hundreds of husbands that are going through same pain right this minute across India.

Here is my suggestion.

Indian marital law is fully one sided and blindly supports women.

So, do not take any legal steps first from your side.

It is very difficult to prove cruelty and you will waste lots of years in court.

Save all the voice recording proofs of her atrocity.

If possible, try to get video recording as well.

Then send a registered letter to your wife and in-laws about all the pain that you are going through.

Indicate all the attempts that you made to save marriage and about part of the proof that you have against their atrocity.

Mention all instances with date/tiem when she threatened you and when your in-laws threatened you.

Ask them to settle the matters amicably and help you to lead a peaceful matrimonial life.

Then send a lawyer notice [not a court notice] as well.

Then give time for them to change for good.

Give as much time as required till they come back to you or they take any legal step.

Then you can respond.

It may take months but worth the wait rather than taking hurried legal actions which will all benefit only your wife.

She will get away with lot of money from you and waste your precious years of life.

Take it from me that they can never put you in jail as new supreme court guidelines prevents unjustified arrests.

Never ever respond angrily to your wife or her parents.

But record all their conversations.

And finally, if you have completely lost all love and trust on your wife, then pursue for MCD - mutual consent divorce.

You never file for divorce first. You will suffer a lot.

The members of this forum and I wish that your matrimonial disputes are solved sooner and you are able lead a happy life as a couple.

Thanks for the response....

wife is left at her mothers place...from there she is spreading bad publicity about us. after all the worst experiences; i don't want to stay with her, no matter what i have to do. her intentions are evil. i have evidence of the same where in she said that she will pass on all the ornaments to her parental family once she barges in the house.

i have been requesting for a mutual consent divorce for which they are not ready.

she keeps on threatening to return back. this is happening since last 2 years. also she is not ready to take back her belongings despite of me asking her to take it back.

because of the anticipation that she will barge in the house, I have taken another place on rent. This is to ensure that she cannot trouble my parents by forceably staying with them.

should my parents (senior citizens) take a stay from city civil court restraining us to enter their property?

In case she files false complaints u/s 498A, what steps should i take?

Prasad has given good advice.

If you want to leave the headache as soon as possible start bargaining. The moment you say the word MONEY, they will tell the amount, you negotiate or bargain like in a fish market and make them agree for MCD.