I got married 11 months ago. It was an arranged marriage. Before marriage, my wife worked in her city. As she was in educational field, she continued her job till the academic end for 4 months after the marriage and then resigned her job. She came to my home and lived for 20 days in my city. In the 20 days, she didn't show any interest in my family or household works. She was busy in her phone/internet only. We had some difference. Citing the difference, her parents separated my wife from me and took her to their home. Without my consent, they took her away. Her parent said they would leave/drop back in 3 to 4 weeks, but they never did. SInce then we have been living separately for nearly 7 months.
In the 7 months, I called her a lot of times, but parents avoided us. they asked me to leave my parent and live separately. And they requested my wife to stay with them, I haven't agreed to it. Among my relations, they spread a lot of false allegations and lies about me and my family, we have refuted mostly everything.
Our difference got bigger.After hearing her false allegations and lies, I have made up that I can't live my rest of life with her.It would be a shame to me and my family if I take her back. My family values are damaged completely. Hence I stopped calling her parents or her.
In the first month of our marriage, I came to know that she had a love affair with a guy before marriage. She hasn't openly admitted her relationship is an loved affairs, but indirectly told to me. Her phone details and facebook chat message/her friend are proof. I had got her phone call details to verify, but didn't get facebook chat messages. Her relationship with the guy continued after the marriage as well. After a big quarrel, she said she would stop the relationship with the guy. I am now quite confident that her relationship was not over, but it has been continuing in a covert way. I had got some proof as well: they changed their way of communication and phone numbers. We had a lot of difference due to this. After I prohibited her communication(70 sms per day and 1 to 2 hours of phone calls per day both before and after marriage) with the guy, she was changed completely and finding fault in each of my activities.
Since her past relationship was completely exposed to me and my family members, she is also not interested in marriage life with me. She is a money minded person. If I gave her money, she would give divorce me. I would like to divorce her without giving any money/alimony as she destoryed my peaceful life and I was cheated by her and her parents. She is a quarrelsome person and we won't have conjugal happiness. Hence I can't live with her. I don't know what to do. Please advice me what I can do next to end this.
