Hi,
I am writing this post having lot of hope from this forum. I am a working person in Bnagalore having having married a girl form Mysore, my parents stay in native Belgaum. I was married on 01-Dec-2013 with lot of hope about marriage, not knowing I would loose my identity.
We hardly lead a life for 1 month, after that she started making allegations that she was feeling bored sitting at home. I helped her to attend interviews and all. Even she has comleted her BE and was working in Mysore, she quit it after marriage. After a month, we had small fights as she started doubting mw withoiut any reasons. For a change I sent her to my native, stayiung there after a week, she without informing anybody at home, went to Mysore herself. Later all elderly persons did a panchayat at Bangalore and asked her what problems were, for which she had no answers. She said her mom had called her mpom, so she went and said she will not repeat this mistake again.
Hearing all this, I moved to a new home in Banglore and got her to that house. we stayed for 15 days and she agian started doubting me even if I get a phone call. I explained her in all possible ways. She used to take all contacts from my phone when I sleep and call them. Still all have told her that I do not have any relationship as she thinks.
All this lead to a day when she manually hit me and bang the door on me. I have taken treatment in govt hospital and I have lodged a complaint in police station about this. After all this happpened in 25th April 2014, I called her parents to come home, but they said they were busy and came after 2 days. So I called my parents and her parents. Her mother took her to Mysore and later never came back. I have arranged panchayat and told her not to repeat this kind and if happened, I will also react. For this her mother told she cant leave her with me even if my wife wanted to come to me.
Then I stayed back at Bangalore. During the period of 1 year, she has sent me all threatening messages, made threaten calls whcih all I have the recordings. Hearing all this, I felt she will never.
After 1 year on 05-Dec-2014, she sent a notice on the basis of Restitution of Conjugal Rights to stay with her. For which I have given all the proof of her threaten and sent a Divorce notice on 20-Dec-2014. After few months, they lodged a maintainance case and cae is going on.
They did not come to court for intial few months and attended once in a while. She did not even come for mediation. Actually my lawyer told he will after look after the mysore case, but he never cared for it. When ever I was going to him, he said not go to him repeatedly.
Now got to know that maintainance is ordred for 8,000/month and Restitution of Conjugal Rights is also ordered it seems.
Upon talking to other lawyer, found that the firl is ready for settlement for 5 lakhs.
Let me tell you very frankly, all marriage expenses and travel and everything was made by us and marriage was done by us at my native, I have all proofs for it.
I will not be able to pay all 5 lakhs to her. maximum I can give is 2 to 2.5 lakhs. Got to know they have put a petition for divorce case transfer to Mysore and my lawyer insists they have already won 2 cases and I am unhappy to hear this as I have all proofs of her threaten,harrasment,police complaint,medical proof,all marriage expenses proof.
On these above proofs, please advice me as how I can proceed with case. I have totally given up on these and lost interests in everything. How long I should keep waiting for the justice. I cannot also do not want to go back to her.
Please please suggest me. I need your assictance and guidance.
Thanks,
MARUTI
