Dear LCI Members,
With everybody like Tajobs and his followers like Rasik, Chetan Joshi, Samuel, Ranee, Anamika etc challenging my Competency and calling me a fake, calling me naked or making false claims, I want to shut everybody's mouth now by sharing my Story with complete facts and before that I want everybody to know that I am here to help out ONLY the Males in India who have been harassed by the women centric laws of the land and this is based upon my own experience...
My Background:
I was an IT engineer by profession, working in Florida, US before marriage and was an NRI at that time, successful, rich and well established. Came to India in Feb,2002 and met couple of girls through Matrimonials.
I found someone who was educated and from a reputed family, Had a grand wedding in Taj Palace, Delhi after knowing and meeting each other for 2 weeks since I had to leave back to US after marriage.
1st biggest mistake in my life of marrying without knowing each other well.
Left to US 0n 14th March, 2002 after getting my wife's visa formalities done for dependant visa. . I was on the top of the world, got a new condomonium of 5 bedrooms and a new Mercedes after marriage.
Life was doing great,,,, and we even planned to go to Disneyland in the coming weekend.
Then came the turning point of my life, 21st March,2002, My wife started complaining of tingling in legs, numbness and weakness and starting vomitting, initially I thought that it was probably due to jetlag and initial hectic period but that continues for a day or two.
I got a bit paranoid and decided for a medical checkup at Baptist Miami Hospital, Florida where she got admitted for 1 week initially wherein the doctors did the completely checkup and all tests but failed to understand the problem, extended the stay to another 1 week and decided to do Xray's MRI etc.
To my utter surprise after seeing the MRI report by the doctor, he said that my wife is suffering from Multiple Sclerosis and I laughed away by saying what is that and he told me that its a nervous disorder wherein it is caused by demylineation of brain nerve cells and our own body immunity system acts as our enemy which leads to paralysis and other body parts failures over a period of time.
I did not take it seriously..... and took the normal medications and got the discharge from the hospital.
2nd biggest mistake in my life for ignoring the pre-existing disease.
Few days left and then my wife started feeling homesick and wanted to return back to her mother's house in Delhi,India... I thought that may be she is under shock of newly formed problem and I sent her back to India.
After returning back to India, She again underwent tests in India and told me that this is a relapsing remitting form of MS which she was not aware of and this is something new got discovered after marriage.
I being a most romantic person in the world having born on 14th Feb, 1975 acknowledged my wife's points and happily waiting to call her back.
Then another shock, she told me that she is happy in India, scared of going to US and also found a school job, hence I should leave everything in US and come back to start the family life again, which I readily accepted, left everything in US and came back to India in October,2002
3rd biggest mistake in my life of leaving my lucrative career for restarting the Married life.
Returned home in India, found out that my wife was very happy in her job and staying with her parents in Delhi.... She told me that she underwent intense physiotherapy and now has regained control of her left leg which got paralysed due to MS attack.
She came to stay with me at my house in Delhi in Nov after making the operational adjustments of her travel to job and we started living happily.
My happiness was short lived and she started to go to her parents house more often than regular... when ever I used to tell her to stay with me, she would say that her parents are old and need her to which I accepted that after all parents are parents but that was happening daily now and I used to go and stay with her parents sometimes considering as my own parents.
Finally I got the job in Dec,2002 and we decided to shift nearby my office which was also near her school.
Renovated the new house, bought new things and life regained its continuity.
But her regular going and staying at her parents house did not stop, I dont remember how many weeks and days I slept alone and even fed food for myself.
Life moved on got busy in professional life and accepted this fact that my WIFE never LOVED me, she only needed a Husband name.
I accepted this as my destiny and related to my karmic theory that this is what God has chosen for me and I should be happy with what I got in life.
2 Years passed by and then we both decided to have a child and finally We got a baby Girl in Jan,2005...
4th biggest mistake in my life of having a baby from a loveless relationship of husband & wife and accepting that I am not the most romantic person rather a most foolish person.
Both of us were very very happy and my wife was indeed a very good mother and I am proud of her for the same till date.
Life passed and I got a job offer in UK in Sept,2006 and told my wife to accompany me and the daughter since she is also very young.
She refused and said that she cannot leave her job and she needs her parents as well. I accepted and went alone, whenever I used to call her from UK, she will say that I should stay happy there and grow in my career and she and baby are fine in India and keep on coming in 2-3 months to meet us.
I again accepted and would come whenever I missed my family in India. This continued for 2 years and we stayed separetely.
My daughter was also growing up, finally I changed my job and came back to Delhi in Dec,2008
I could hardly see my wife in home, rather she was always with her parents along with my daughter.
I tried to discuss this with her parents multiple times to which they always said that they cannot do anything in this regard since this is husband wife understanding.
Finallly after repeated attempts I met a lawyer and narrated my story to him in Jan 10 to which he asked that whether my wife is interested in Divorce and I said that my wife needs only me as a Name sake Husband and a Father to our daughter and want to continue the relationship as it is with me fulfilling my financial responsibilities as a father.
I realised that this is going to be a Contested case... I stayed separately for 1 year till Jan 11 and then filed the case in Feb,11 on Cruelty and desertion grounds in Tis Hazari.....
Battle Begun....
My wife was not interested in giving the divorce under any circumstance, no matter what.
Money no issues,
family backup no issues
I am tired guys to write more, If anybody wants to know how I got the divorce decree on Aug-14th 2012 after filing the divorce case in Feb,2011, feel free to call me at 8373906018.
I can provide strategies to convert the Contested divorce into Mutual Consent on CASE BY CASE BASIS.
