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Ashwini Damani (Senior Manager)     14 December 2011

Emotional manipulation

 

The technique of manipulating through emotional confusion is definitely the most popular one and is pretty easy to do. It basically plays on eliminating logic from the conversation. Logic allows the person to think and the last thing you want your target to do is think because it can block/prevent basic manipulation. What you want to do is steer the conversation to a place where he/she is in an emotional state so their ability of thinking rationally is severely diminished.
A lot of people think that emotional manipulation is all about constantly invoking strong emotional states to remove logic from the situation. This is only partly true, you have to choose the right moment to invoke that strong emotional surge! If you constantly switch between strong emotional states it will only confuse your target and actually prevent you from implementing your ideas.
This is where emotional control comes in, most of the time you have to keep your emotions in check, don't react, stay cool and friendly (I call this being the grounded friend). This is harder than you might think as your mind has the constant urge to react to every impulse that enters the brain! The goal is to stay friendly always and forever right up to the point where the manipulation starts, being likeable creates trust and prevents doubt!
But the real power in being the grounded friend all the time lies in how others will see you, they will see a very confident and down-to-earth person who is in total control of his life. This means that you'll almost always have the upper hand in conversations as your confidence outshines theirs... this will work on 60% of all people! It is however very important that you don't get cocky as this will break the illusion!
You might ask what to do with the other 40%? well, 10% of them are the alpha types, high in confidence but a lot of them are slightly less intelligent... which means they are easier to manipulate with logic! The other 30% are the tricky ones, this is where the real power of being always cool/friendly comes in... When you seem grounded all the time then the moments where you actually show strong emotions have an enormous impact! The impact is so big that even the tricky 30% will be fooled into thinking you're for real, this is why you do it, this is why you keep your emotions in check... because when you actually show emotions, people will notice and believe almost anything you say at this point!
Keep in mind that these tips can also be used to recognize situations where you are the one being manipulated!

Source : goldensilt.blogspot.com


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kumar t v s (advocate)     14 December 2011

The article makes good reading, but the best thing is BE YOURSELF. When you dont need to manipulate, no emotional manipulation either.


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