Dear Sirs,
I want your expert opinion regarding the issue with the marriage of my elder sister.
Sequence of events:
We are native of Bihar but settled in Kolkata with my father, mother and one younger sister. My elder sister was married to my brother-in-law in late 2009. My brother-in-law is captain in a ship and its official headquarter is in Mumbai. Since my jijaji lives with his parents at Patna, she too stayed there. After around 2-3 months of marriage, the troble started when my Jijaji left for his job on the sea. He was on the sea for almost 1 year. Whenever, my sister tried to call her to be back, his parents used to advise him to stay there and earn money. In the interim, Jijaji's parents, his brother, married sister and his husband stared creating problem for my sister. Additionally, they created misunderstanding between my sister and my jijaji and he always listened to his family members. After some time, my sister became pregnant but no one took her the hospital on time beacause of which she had a miscarriage due to excessive bleeding. Jijaji's family members called my father and gave 2000 to my sister and forced her to be at our home. I wa very angry uon knowing this and wanted to take lgal action for the same but my mother denied me the same saying the marriage will be in trouble.
My sister stayed at our home fr around 7-8 months and we looked after her. Jijaji in the meantime inspite of knowing these facts scolded her over the mobile ( fyi, he used to send meagre amount to her ). Becasue of his behaviour, she was already very upset. His sister along with his husband and his mother made a call to my sister through a boy (another relative), instigated her against Jijaji and recorded all the conversations. Obviously, my sister told somthing angrily about my Jijaji. They shared this conversation with my Jijaji over the internet on the sea and he became infuriated. This was the start of the problem.
My sister went back to Jijaji's home at Patna when he was back from the sea. He had fight with my sister on daily basis after taking drinks. His sister and his husband and other family members always instigated him against my sister. For the past 3 years, he is on the sea on an average 70% of the time and whenever he is at home, he is always busy on his mobile and intenet. He never shares any personal information with my sister. Moreover, he has denied adding me or any of us adding to his facebook accounts etc. My sister has sometimes received inappropriate calls and smses from females also. In all these 3 years, he never bothered to talk to our family and didnot come to our house at calcutta even once. To add, beacause of all these tensions, she had another miscarriage.
Legal Issue:
Now, we cam to know that Jijaji and family members had planned very long ago to throw my sister out of thier home and they had been recording evidence against my sister (they instigated something because of which my sister had to shout). Jijaji stared the fght after takingdrinks on most of the times. Based on the same, they have filed a court case that becasue of the fight by my sister with Jijaji's and his family mebers they are mentally upset and so they have expelled my Jijaji legally from his father's property.
Now, my Jijaji is compellng my sister to go to my home and he will leave for his job on the sea. The even brought a poilce to interrogate my sister but the police instead on seeing the situation advised my Jijaji and his family members to not go for ay such case.
FYI, My Jijaji and alll the male members in his family members ar heavy drinkers and always fight with my sister but they deny this infront of a third person.
They have filed a case with so cunningly that we also cannnot take any action beacuse of the state holidays in west bengal till 30th Oct 2012.
Jijaji's family members are very rich and powerful people and they have some very good contacts in Bihar. On the other hand, i am the only earning member in my family becasue of which i wanted to have the court case in Calcutta.I am bachelor and a male and cannot imagine how our male dminated soceity treates a woman in such a manner.
I feel totally helpless becasue of which i am writting this message in the hope that i will find an assistance which is very essential for me.
Waiting for your reply in anticipation. Please help soon.
Thanks & regards in advance,
Shashi shekhar
Mob: 9899000868
