Harassment by wife

Hi,

I got married on Feb,2013. It was an arranged marriage. However, after marriage from the very first day my wife started telling me that she will go back to her parental home.

If she had to go back to her parental home, why did she get married to you?

She started pointing out all the moments when my mother is angry because of the household chores not done correctly.

Mother will be angry, what's wrong in it, its her home too, ie your wife's all have to share work and do.

But she never stressed upon the gifts mother gave or anything good that my mother has done to my wife.

How will she tell anything good at all about ur mom?  The moment your mom got angry at her as she is not good at looking after household chores, she became a villain, dont you understand that???

Now by April she went to her dads home and told me she is not going to come back to our house.

If she had to go back to her parental home and not come back, why did she get married to you?

I tried to make her understand in many ways, but she wont.

All training given by MIL.

Even I met her once in this time period and she agreed to come back but her mom ( standing outside the cafeteria we met) told her as we came out that if she comes with me then they will break relationship with her.

See I told you its MIL tuition.

So she moved again to her dads house. Its been one month I have send n number of sms and called her, messaged in facebook but still she is not intended to come back.

Get a track record of what sms you sent from telephony company, all printouts.  All screenshots of FB messages sent.

Initially her parents told that they cannot send their daughter back  to our house and asked for seperate arrangement ; but as I told them the very next day( after 24 hours) that I am ready to live seperate from mom and dad, her dad told me its late and they will see what can be done over time!

New she would or her parents would ask for seperate accomodation.

I have even tried to bring both the family memebers under one shelter for discussion in a local legal help center organised by municipality near to her dads palce, but they did not turn up.

Nah, they wont come.

I have send emails requesting her to come back, to which she replied that I need to talk to her dad regarding the same.

Take printouts of e-mails sent and recieved.  Will be useful in the future.

Now, I am little afraid about the situation about what they want as because I already told her dad that I will live seperately but he informed its late and even told her the same to come back.I told her that we will first move to some  immediate place  then move into a comfortable place within weeks. I even told her that I will take a transfer in job, but she is reluctant.

Kudos.

I have already testified that she does not trust me anymore for which the relationship seems to be a dead one.  

Yes it is.

I am helpless kindly suggest me ways to proceed from here so that I can end this relationship as soon as possible????

ASAP??? Ok, ask how much she wants, money... arrange for it, ask her to sign MCD papers, get rid of headache.

even before a year

Before a year, not possible, one year must be complete, until then send a lawyer notice asking her to come back, failing which you will be forced to apply for divorce.

and also throw some lights in alimony I might need to pay considering our marriage was only for 2 and half months,

1 day or 1 year or 10 years, once marriage done, done.  Alimony has to be paid.

For this 1/3rd of your take home income will be taken into account.

second her educational qualifications, salary income etc will be taken into acount and some alimony will be fixed.

she has done postgrad and age late 20's, living with parents in their owned house.

Best way ahead is MCD, as contested divorce case takes hell lot of time to get over 5-6 years, by the end of it you would have ended up paying money to lawyer and to her also and also end up paying lumpsum money by end of it via permanent alimony.

So better pay now, get rid of headache.

Do browse through family law section of LCI, you will get many answers that are arising in your head as of now.