Harrased by husband n his expectations.. Pls advs

Madam, this is a forum where we give legal solutions mainly when all the alternatives like counselling, talks by the elders etc are over and when couple want to have legal solutions.

It is better you go to your husband and try to sort out things. From your query it is cvlear that you want to have your own family with you and your husband except other in laws. I do not know how far it is feasible in your circumstance. Please talk to your elders and solve the issue before it is too late.

But mam I afraid of killing or beating by husband. He got angry on petty issue like not calling or respecting family members, less visiting to my parents as he thinks they teaches me. We dont want to include any relative except his n my family but he is not ready to come alone to us with his family members..

Madam, please let me know if you have any hopes of living with him anymore or, if have decided to leave him once for all. Because, once the matter goes to courts, there will be little hope of reunion. I suppose he has his right to live in his home. It is always a custom in India for the daughter in law to live with in laws and not vice versa except in exceptional cases.

If at all you decide to leave him, you have to file a DV case against him and ask for maintenance and residence orders. Please consult any advocate to help you at your place. 

every husband wants respect for his family.dont u want that ur hubby shud respect ur family?i dont understand what u r finding offensive here..

u have the right to say NO to communicating with his relatives only if they are ABUSING YOU.otherwise i feel your husband is only teaching u duniyaadaari.

he start abusing / desrespecting my parents after he come to know that I dont like his family much. he listen phone communication one day. Also he loss my respect when i read his diary n old sms of girls, but he deny any relation or concern clearly. He has good repute in family n relative so his relative also favour him. But I dont want to go back on the cost of my as well as my parents self respect. How I go ahead not clear to me. Now he is trying send my belongings to me.

u should give time to ur relationship and sometimes, we have to bear many things to save our family and things get settled with time. I think u have made a mistake by coming to your parental home without telling ur in-laws. u should go to ur matrimonial home and get the things settled by yourself without interference of ur parents.

@ author

all depends on what you want out of this relation.do u want to live with him or separate?if u want to be separated,u have come to the right place.if not,please meet a marriage counsellor with your husband.

u r saying repeatedly that u dont like his family/relatives.but u want respect for your own parents.r u not being selfish here?if u want respect for yourself and your parents,first learn to give respect to his family.as i can understand,the dispute is not becoz there's any problem b/w you 2,but because of your parents!

u have not mentioned that his relatives or family harass u.still u say u dont like them!!!

ur hubby disrespected your family when he came to know that you dont like his family.....so do u expect your husband to be like god,when you are not a goddess yourself?

if those old SMS of girls were before marriage,u shud ignore them.but if he has any relations after marriage,then u r right in complaining against him.

he's sending ur belongings since he's unsure if u r returning....

and i am unsure what advice u r seeking here...a marriage advice or a divorce advice???

so i say again...go to a marriage counsellor with him..

all the best!!

@shikha

Here I totally agree with Roshni.u r saying repeatedly that u dont like his family/relatives.but u want respect for your own parents.r u not being selfish here?

You ahve a option to reunion or file for Dv and 125 case.

My advise is to give a chance ,you go to your husband and try to sort out things.Consult marriage counsellor with him.Husband should respect his wife and wife also respect  her husband .

Sala In sab matrimonial dispute ki jad(core reason) relatives parents hai.

wife prefer from her husband to respect her partents and on the other hand husband prefer from their wife to respect their family members .The other reason is population.A couple cannot live seperately as he or she cant afford new house.I saw many cases in which wife can live with  her husband on a condition to live seperately from their parents.Why you all know .

If the problem arises because of parents then better to live seperately and if husband not agree and beat you or abusing you then teach him lesson.First of all respect their parents and try to conciliate the matter.

Looks you already decided to spoil your life tahts why you are here on forum.

You need to respect and maintain healthy realtionship, not need to be best friend. Just go home and stay with husband and if you fear any violence better talk to elders I think his brother to whom you hate can help you.

You have no problem, you are trying to make problem.  And once you are out you will loose respect too and then false self respect will not work.

Regarding girls /sms etc if any thing was in past then just keep in past he is not in active relationship then do not make any new issue. How intelligent you are? ignoring his relatives for mediation and asking stangers for help on internet...

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I am not convinced about the genuineness of the post or the writer. I feel that this post is just a prank. The language of the post is highly inconsistent in itself. At some places the language used is sophisticated (as should be of someone who is B. Ed.) but at some places it is horrible. I doubt there can be so much inconsistency in a post written naturally by a single person unless otherwise it is purposely done.

When we born inconsistency starts and when we end inconsistency complete.

Hello Sister,

I have gone through your query I suggest you please dont make that mistake of staying away from your husband this may ultimately result in divorce and nothing less. In the early 4 to 5 years of marriage egos are common among couple both parties like their parents or relatives to be respected, attended and taken careoff. Usually this happen with every couple who are duty minded and thoes who are independnet and habituated to liberal life like to have nucles family. Sister, pls dont mistake me. Join your husband immediately unconditionally no wrong even if you ask for apolize even there is no mistake on your part. But once you have two issues automatically his interest on his partens or brother will completely vanish and will give more concern to you, your children and your family. This is going to happen surely. So dont repeat the mistake what the women of ego and depressed do. It is in your interest sis. I apolize if it hurts you.