There are the following steps, you can take:
1. Download the entire cause list and go to "Edit" and from there to "Find" option and there you type either "party's name" or "advocate's name". If it is there in the list, you will come to know about it.
2. Just ignore unprofessional advice of unprofessional persons.
3. In High Court, maintenance matters will not take one and one and half year. The procedure is that once petition is heard, if the court convinces of the merits of the case, gives order for issue of notice to respondent and ask the registry (the administrative office of the High Court) to list it after two months or three months. As you have filed the counter affidavit, instead of waiting for listing of the matter in normal course (There is a chance for manipulation for not getting it listed early), you go to the concerned branch and ask them to list the matter before the court for appropriate orders. Other-wise, you can move urgent hearing application also.
4. If the order granting maintainance is not stayed by the High Court, you have got every right to file execution petition for maintenance. If the High Court stayed the maintenance order, please find out that High Court might have passed an order against the husband to deposit 75% to 50% of the maintenance amount in the registry for issuing notice to wife. You can move appropriate application for releasing this amount to you immediately and the court will decide this application before deciding your husband's petition.
In all these things, your advocate should help you out. Otherewise, it will become difficult to you lay persons to understand these things.