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S.B _Kolkata (Service)     18 March 2010

How to protect my parents from 498a harrasment???

Dear All Advisor,

 

My wife is staying at her parent's house wioth my 7 month daughter since from the day of discharge from the hospital. After our several request she did not agreed to come back and join our family. She mainly wanted to stay with me separately from my family. I had opposed the same from the first day. Still I am sending money to her every month according to my capability. She need more money and now started to fabricate false story about her mentral and physical torture by sending sms.The actual fact is that  is was with my family just for 05 days as togather. 01  year   spent with me in my working place. We got married in 31st May, 08.

 

 

Under this circumstances How can I prevent my old poor parents first from the false dowry cases??

Please advise me accordingly...



 10 Replies


(Guest)

1. Keep in a safe place evidences of money/ letters / sms / regd. post mails sent to her.
2. Both of you need merital counseling to resolve over issues of "residence" May be a midway rented place between both side's in-laws could solve the immidiate issues post birth she is raising. Setting up quality time to visit yoru parents without disturbing your marital life may be added solution.
3. The briefs does not smell of S. 498a IPC as of now but it may be a gift anytime other than other quality Sections of Maint. / residence rights Laws of the land.
4. There is nothing called "prevention" when she wants to file she will eventually file the said sections from the various Acts of law in fvour of women, but yes lesser damage to your side could be possibility if you start interacting with legal minds in your vicinity and following para 1.

Rgds.,

Guest (Guest)     19 March 2010

When you insist that she should leave her parents and stay with you along with your parents, she also has got a right to insist that you should leave your parents and stay separately.  Hence, follow Mr. Arun's advice mentioned at point 2 and maintain cordial relations with your parents and help them to the possible extent  and also maintain good relations with in-laws, by living separately.  Problems would be solved. 

S.B _Kolkata (Service)     19 March 2010

Thanks you all to advise me. But at the same time when she insisted me to isolate myself from my old poor parent, how is it possible to keep her word being an elder son of my family??

Parents have never thought back to give us the smallest pleasure in the world , though that was not very easy for them but just to see that smile on our face they would to anything . They took our hand in the childhood because we were learning to walk, they taught us how to overcome the obstacles and go forward, but what do we do now when they have not remained so strong to walk on their legs...Do we give them our hand? Or give them a stick and say walk your way????

 

We should not forget that getting old is a process of life. It’s a circle which will come to us also, today our parents are old tomorrow we are going to be old. What we do to our parents may come back to us from our own children.

Secondly, her behavior as I observed was very dominating as well as suspecious, while staying at my working place for a year. She has broken the trust by saying assorted false statement even today also.

 

So how is it possible for me to make change her and bring her into the main stream of life???

Guest (Guest)     20 March 2010

I share your sentiments about old parents and say that it is the responsibility of children to look after their parents. But at the same time, my question is that she must have also been feeling same about her old parents. She wants to become helping hand and provide assistance in every day activities of her old parents. It is better to come to an understanding so that you both can be helpful to the parents of you both.

S.B _Kolkata (Service)     20 March 2010

As on date when I and my family are getting fear about false dowry case, It is impossible for me to reconcile the hole matter and stay with her separately. I decided to divorce her and at the same time wants to give a good fight against her false case. What will be the appropriate way for the same???

S.B _Kolkata (Service)     21 March 2010

pl advise.

Guest (Guest)     21 March 2010

Then file divorce case and fight the criminal cases or domestic violence case, which she may file against you.  Take anticipatory bail in those cases where such bail is required.  If anticipatory bail is not granted, file the bail as and when arrested and get released.  Spend your entire time and money to fight court cases without mental  peace and in that process even cannot help your old parents due to financial burden and lack of peace, even though that is the main reason you have altercation with your wife.  After some years, she may come to compromise and after taking a wholesome amount as permanent alimony (because she would be branded for her entire life as "divorcee" and "not virgin") and may give divorce by mutual consent.

Thousands of young people treated that path and it is not as rosy as people generally believe.  Ask the advise of those people, who walked fully that path and they explain you of their experience.  And do not ask advise from the people who want to walk that path and are still walking.  Do not believe the advise of those people, who are by-standers and women hatred club and enjoy each and every moment of their life.

Wish you best of luck. 

S.B _Kolkata (Service)     21 March 2010

Sir,

You mean to say compromise with them....?

Guest (Guest)     21 March 2010

Yes.  Compromise and enjoy the life without negative thoughts. Love and help your old parents by using your brains and a little tactic and also respect and if possible love your in-laws.  Get a separate house for you and your wife which is equidistant not only geographically but also emotionally between your parents and inlaws.  You voluntarily lose the battle, now and here against your wife and you will win the war forever.  Do not spend rest of your life visiting courts and paying advocates' fee regularly and abusing them for not giving judicial relief to you.   

S.B _Kolkata (Service)     21 March 2010

That means to avoid the litigation I'll have to compromise with them. Also I have to act a drama forever in my life. Is it possible ??/


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