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Rich and famous is all the more reason that they will be casual ,selfabsorbed and perpetrators of the violence .Home is one of the most violent unit of the society.
Domestic violence is least understood by all of us.It has several overt form (hitting,throwing items on spouse) and covert forms like (neglecting,emotionally blackmailing giving silent treatment).Couple in relationship often unknowingly indulge in it due to lack of knowledge or due to inadequate coping skills or due to immaturity in express oneself.
Domestic violence bigets cruelity.No gender,age ,s*x or social class is spared.
Families can be roughly divided into following types
TYPES OF FAMILY
(a) Healthy Family – Where there is atmosphere of mutual respect, love & self growth. Rules of healthy give and taken govern the relationship.
(b) Excessively dependent family – These families have less exposure to ftcuse they maake independent responsibility and are able to function when the senior is present and are unable to function when the senior is away . They cause lot of distress.
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c) Excessively controlling Family - These families are most difficult to satisfy and have unresolved issues of power and control often unhealthy in relationship. They constitute maximum drain of resources for spouse organization and are frequently representing at parents place or the police station /courts room
(d) Scheming Family – These families are desperate and plan spouse return trough manipulation of symptoms. They are able to create greater crisis than they manage and need delicate handling.
Domestic violence in family setting can be exhibited through followingy -
Physical abuse-hitting,kicking,assault and sleep deprivation
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Verbal Abuse-Shouting,taunting,berating,belitting,unhealthy and needless comparison,ridiculing,name calling etc
emotional abuse-Not talking,cold shouldering,blocking children,refusing letters,suicidal threats
Financial abuse-excessive spending,needless spending manipulation through costly gifts,air tickets,Not sending money giving money to other person rather tahn deserving spouse.
Sexual abuse-Forced s*x, denying s*x,engaging in s*xual ,molestation,dirty remarks,exposing one self for ones own pleasure.
Neglect - food ,care,kind words etc.
men abuse woman ,children ,elders and woman abuse also men elders and some times children.No age ,s*x, gender or social strata is devoid of abuse.Woman can be perpretrators as well as victims.Men are cruel physically and finanacially woman are cruel emotionally as well as verbally .Men are more overt in violenceand woman are more covert in violence.
it may occur due to dysfunctional family bonds and personality disorders and alcohol and drugs.
ONe can asess the violence in relationship whether it is
mild
moderate
severe
one should protect oneself from it and also not abuse the partner at any cost.
1-keep recording the diary with date and time.
2-Keep recording the ex ct conversation in diary.
3-Take help of counsellar to save relationship.
4-RECORD PSHYSICAL ASSAULT IN medical emergency.Take photpgrraphs of briuses and body injury.
5-Record threatening behviour.
6-use spy pen
7-Dont arouse suspecion
8-READ about assertiveness training and emotional blackmailer from internet.
9-Be Kind and courteous not a doormat.
10-Tell physical violence is not acceptable.
11-be loving caring and affectionate.
