if your huband writes to the income tax authorities., it wont take much time for the income tax department to send a legal notice to your father, asking for his IT returns. and if there is a goof up, then you and your family will be in more trouble . so if your father has not filed any IT returns and you claim to have spent Rs 25 lacks then you wil certainly face music from the IT department, and that would be enough to bring you back to earth from the so called 'emotional trauma' that you have undergone. and your fathers 'hard earned' money will also have accountabiltiy