Dear All,
I am married for last 15 years and have a son of 14 years studying in 9th std. Now, I got to know my husband is in extra maritial affair with other women. My married life was very sore since starting. He is Amritdhari Sikh shows himself as a very religious guy but keeping s*xual relationship with his staff teacher for more than 6 years. In starting I was thinking he was Mumas boy and money oriented. He always wants me to give my salary to him. Even in 1st year of my marriage, I had given my whole salaries to my inlaws and they were giving me pocket money. My husband always said me to return the balance pocket money which I never done that it was my pocket money. Then my inlaws had not treated me well after my delivery. After my baby I didn't work for 2 years but my inlaws & husband treated me very badly at home and even not providing any pocket money. Then I decided to start working. I joined in some Company and I refused to give my salary to them. Then they had planned to send me out of house. My husband started living in rented house.but I refused to go there. Finally, I had to go to my parents home back. I stayed at my parents home for 1 year. In the meantime he married his sister and even not informed to me. At last, I had came back just for sake of my son life but now am feeling my decision was wrong. He agreed to come back on rented home only with the conditions that I have to spend 50% of the household expenses. Even, today am spending maximum part of the household expenses. For more than one year his relationship are disclosing in front of me & my son. First time my son had seen condomns in his school drawer. My husband is running playway school. Then twice my son had seen condomns in his drawer and so many times with his colleague teacher Indu. Even, one time he got used condomn in his father pocket. Everytime he came to me and told me the situation. First, I tried to clean his mind that there is nothing going on but its just a co-incidence. Something like this. Then I saw some messages in his phone which I feel now he was showing me intentionally to makeup my mind to leave him but I had not done. Then so on things are coming out routinely. Now, I called him during his school time and he just left his phone open and arguing with his girlfriend which at last I got to record and in this recording everything is clear that he is in s*xual relationship with her. Then he called me that I will meet her at Gurudwara he wants to disclose each & everything. I was very upset and finally I met him and recorded all of our conversation where he was blaming me for his extra marital affair. Even he said that God will find out some way but there was only 3 ways whether he should die or I should fight with him & leave or his girlfriend should fight & leave him. He will not leave her like this. He had promised her and he said that am not leaving you also but dont know what to do? He was mixing all the things. Now, I don't know what to do whether to stay with him or leave him as the things are worst day by day. There is nothing left in our relationship but it was very difficult for my son to understand. Even I don't know whether he release my son or not. Please advise.
