You have to answer these questions yourself:
1. If I file cases against him for mediation to create an opportunity to talk, will that mediation succeed? If he has intention to hear will he not talk to me directly?
2. If he is not willing to talk to you, but you are willing to talk to him, it means you need him more than he needs you now. So at this stage, i.e., after marriage and having a daughter and a divorce proceeding against you are you willing to accept him with same level of affection as you accepted him before marriage? I don't think you are at a stage where you can write love letters to him to please him to come back to you. Your Ego might be hurt somewhere, with his behavior and sure you would not be as humble and wanting his need as otherwise when you prepared to marry him happily.
3. The theory that the fruits that we cannot pluck are sour : You should convince yourself that he is a bad person at one stage or the other. He decided that you are a bad person and convinced himself about it. YOu cannot win hearts with court cases. You should win hearts with humility, sacrifice and perseverance. You should create the feeling of love and affection in him with your conduct and dedication towards him, and make him feel sorry for you. But when you do all this, you should confirm that he is worthy of all this sacrifice from your side.
4. Court cases hurt people whether it is filed from the side of husband or wife. People feel, "My honor is being dragged into streets" and feel bad about it, as these are family matters. Second, they get the feeling, "She is trying to dominate me by showing that she can take me to task if necessary". So if you want to win that person through sacrifice and perseverance, you should be clear that A. He is worthy of that sacrifice B. And so, you are not prepared to initiate legal action, come what may forever.
5. If he decided that you are evil person and doing everything behind you like a villain, and you sit like Sati Savitri praying god that some day, he will come back to you it is of no use. That is why decide he is bad person, convince yourself. Or decide, he is good person worthy of sacrifice mentioned above. If you waver between these questions without knowing right answer, you will not get anywhere by any of the steps you initiate to correct your marriage.
6. How do you know what action you should take? Study your feelings deeply in silence. Do not think "what should I do now or how should I feel now". Think what I feel like doing now in respect of him. In every relationship the soul of one in another is manifested. If you are feeling good about him sometimes, it is because he is feeling sorry about you there. If you are feeling bad about him, it is because he is feeling bad about you there. If you are feeling angry about him at certain point of time, it is because he is feeling angry about you there. Based on this, read what he wants to do with you. Sometimes it is possible as I said, that even an incorrigible person can be moved by our sacrifice, and feel good about us. Make him feel good about you, and when he feels good about you you also feel good about him. That is toughest way to reconciliation in marriage. Or wait for him to feel good on his own about you. But remember if he does not feel good about you, you will not feel good about him at your end. That is why I said, "read your feelings deeply" to know what to do with him. Many forum members may not accept this theory of feelings and Extra Sensory Perception, but I believe it is there.
Don't apply for any maintenance, and wait for his next move. You know, as he is not in talking terms with you, his move will be legal move only. To move that he should feel enough reason within to convince himself that you are an evil person. If you prove otherwise, his conscience will not allow him to do what he wants. He will do it all half-heartedly and he cannot even face the judge properly.
It is very simple. Imagine Judge asking the following questions to him:
Judge : Did she file S.498A against you after marriage?
Your husband : No.
Judge : Did she ask you to give back Streedhan, Dowry etc by filing cases against you under IPC, DV Act etc.?
Your husband : No.
Judge : Did she even ask for maintenance from you? It is because you have applied for Divorce, as part of that, she asked for Interim maintenance, otherwise, she did not even asked for maintenance? Did she?
Your husband: No.
Judge : Your divorce is dismissed on your own fault. On what ground you want to apply for divorce again?
Your husband will not have any answer for it. Don't apply for RCR but when your husband files for divorce, just say to judge, I don't want to file RCR but if he is willing to accept me, I am prepared to go to matrimonial home now itself, tell him to take me to his house. Put other facts relating to your marriage correctly before court in your written statement that you have not deserted him, it is because he went to US, you could not cohabit with him and he did not make any attempt to take you to US.
If he made any attempts, he will show passport, visa etc. If he does not show, his case gets further weakened.
But when you do all this, you will throw him into such a situation that, he will be in a soup. He will neither know how to get divorce from you to get remarried nor know how to accept you again because of how hurt-ego problems. Don't enjoy his trauma (of non-resolution of issues with you forcing his life to remain in precarious situation), inwardly. That will propel his animal instincts to think bad about you if you do so. It is all in the way we feel. Throw him into such a situation that he should neither have a reason to feel bad about you, because you have assumed moral high ground by not filing S.498a and other cases. At the same time, he should not feel confident about himself doing all that against you, like filing divorce and all.
If you make him feel that, he is not right in filing divorce against a good person, you have won more than half of mind game with him. Society is witness to it. Yes. Even good people can have a right to play the game if needed! Not because they have tendency to initiate a play to prove their superiority, but because they are forced to play and defend themselves.