Hi,
This is my experience in my Life.Looking back to my college days, I first met this guy, who was very charming, and full of promises (which are of course all lies). I felt that yes… He is the one for me. I almost argued and lost everything for him. I ignored my family’s pain and troubles I was giving them. All I had in my mind was love and love. To marry him, I even threatened my parents, and lot more which cannot be put in words. Emotions played a major role and my parents kept quit since I were a major. I married him in against of my family (went to police station ... bla.. bla). He converted me to Islam to get married not legally but gave me a new name, saying it’s the important thing to get the support or affection of his family and also to sign in marriage paper. so our marriage according to muslim law done, that to without any of my identity. nor my name nor my father's name.. everything was false. at that time i didnt realise all such. A man came near me, made me say “khubool hain” 3 times, and gave me some papers to sign (i signed in that new name) and that’s it, he said Mubarak .. you got married. I said oh that’s all!! i didnt even know the meaning of it that time.
On the very first day my in law's started torturing me 2 to 3 months went off.. I learnt about his family. My husband didnt went for job, he has 3 sister's. His father also not going for job.. they neighter had property nor wealth but living a showful life. Oneday they will spend a lakh also another day they will even starve.. i too starved with them.. They got money from an uncle who used to come to our house, he has extra marital affair with his elder sis.. the whole family knew it they all are accepting it. First biggest shock for me!!
The family is not good but i lived there for the only reason my love towards him. I discontinued my college and married him, I cahanged my name, I left my family, His family is my family, His friends are my friends, no money in hand everything like 1 rupee shampoo also i ve to ask my in law... very problematic life i was leading. my husband used to drink a lot.. go with friends wont return even in night few days..
I cant bear the pain, I went to police and ask me to rejoin with my family.. I rejoined but i cant leave him , so again back to the ditch i fell knowingly..
Years passed, 3 yrs after i got concieved, my parents took extra care as they did b4. He became different now he didnt appeared as when we were loving each other, now he wear that cap, having beard, dresses not good.so he bcame as a muslim elders look, meanwhile his father ran behind another women and went outside the home. my son born, and i stayed in my mom's home. he asked to return to his home after 3 months.. I was confused. I cant live with child without money , and how i ll comfort my child.. i cant c him growing in a bad family issues.. so i asked him to go for job and i ll come back i told.. He told to his parents regarding. They shouted at me as if i said a bad thing, there is no need for my son to go for job. if u want come and stay at home they told and went off. 3 yrs went i was in my mom's home i used to go to his home on festivals or any special occations, suddenly he pin pointed small small mistakes and went off from me.. Daily i used to speak, i used to update all the things gradually everything stopped he unanswered my calls.. he didnt came home months together(b4 he used to come daily, later weekly twice..and stopped all of sudden). I was confused, i took the life has it bcame. During chennai floods he came spoke asusual he said he was angry with me for no cause then he came home weekly once. another day i got a calal from his friend that my husband his cheating me.. i was shocked bcoz just b4 day he came home.. then i didnt believe him. next day i saw him when i checked his phone i saw a women's photo named her as his wife. i was shocked many photos. everything.. i was really shocked i argued and ended in saying yes from him. Then i came home.. now its almost a year over since we spoke as we were.. even for our child's bday he didnt returned. that lady he is having affair now also known to his family. she is already married and her husband is in abroad. This is my situation now.. He knocked me off saying there is no proof for our marriage since there is no identity of mine(name, father's name...). But one good thing i did when i was pregnant and went for first checkup with my in law, they told my new name but argued, fighted and i mentioned my hindu name. so in my son's birth certificate alone my name and my husband name are together legallay.. Now everything in my life is my son. my last hope is my son.
I could not apply for ration card, passport to add my son's name as i dont have any proof nor we stay together. but he took passport filing that he is single(fake documents). Everything i met in married liffe was fake, fake people..
This is my situation now i dont know to go under muslim law for getting divorce or by wat i could be seperate from all this stress for ever..
I got married in the age of 19. Im just 25 now my life ended in full of thorns..
Please suggest me.. Please i need help.. Give me answer for my Question mark Life???????
