Is death the only option??????

As for your kids maintanence it is co-extensive and the two of you would have to contribute towards the same . Hasnt your advocate told you about this and why hasnt he applied for interim maintanence of your two kids ??

you have said that your marriage is 20 yrs old . But you have not stated the age of the kids ?? 

As the flat is in joint names one can buy the others share and than you can buy a new place of your own from the share you receive out of the sale .

My sons are aged 18 and 13 . I am 40 years old.

My husbands keeps telling the advocate that he does not have any money and emotionally blackmails me saying that he will stop the younger one who stays with him from going to school. He keeps sending abusive messages even after thecourt has passed an injunction order for not sending messages or cal me.

@ author 

you have stated that " My husband could never become a good son"   Please dont expect this from him to become your son :-) 

Now for the son who has turned a major 18 yrs and is with you maintanence cannot be claimed . As the minor son is with him it is but naturally that he is taking care of him and is providing him with all the means . What he says out of anger is a different question and what he does practically is to be taken into account !!

Now you have stated that your husband conveys to the advocate that he does not have money . Where is the question of money arsing in this situtation . Your are a working women and hence you would not get any maintanence . The Major son is with you . While the minor son is with him . so where is the question of maintanence .???

As for the flat it has already been suggested above .

As for the messages you can just change your no which is a simple solution since  your advocate to whom you are paying your legal fees i presume is not guiding you as to what is to be done for the injunction order not being followed by you for which you have proof of the same on your mobile . Litigation is dirty and it takes years for a judgement to come at the cost of your time and money . 

I am certainly not expecting him to be my son . Anyways I understand that he my elder son is 18 years old ..so his father should not pay for his fees ? Secondly the younger one is staying with my husband but his school ,transport and others expenses are paid by me though he is staying with him.

Son/daughter is entitled to maintenenance only upto 18 years. Whereas you can stop paying  for the second son  however if your husband also stops paying, then how your second son will get education?..  so careful decision is what needed here.

I will never abandon my kids and will do everything till my last breath but I have hopes from the court that they help me getting some money from him for the kids and my share of the flat. He has money but wants to use it n himself and his girlfriend.

@ Author thats the spirit and keep it up :-) 

What kind of solid evidences you have for his adulterous behaviour.. what were allegations covered in pettition. You can PM one of the experts like tajobs  etc, they may help.

Hospital records of domestic violence have been given and the allegations covered are ill treatment to my elder son ,domestic violence,defaming me and adultry. I have his recordings which states that the girl was expecting his baby and went through a miscarriage. His SMS records.The girl too had called me and abused me and said that will not let you take his single rupee.What else would I require?

Yours is a case of living in a abusive relationship though I have not walked a mile in your shoes.

You stayed;

1. because you fear retribution if you earlier tried to leave.

2. because it was all so familiar.

3. because you are emotionaly a submissive person.

It is high time you walk out on below terms assisting Court to allow;

A. allowed option to parties for MCD

B. one time alimony to husband parting from joint property share valued at present market value

C. custody of minor child given to you.

Further;

i. maintenance to you / major child is not possible.

ii. S. 25 HMA needed to have been filed for share / partition in joint property.

iii. monetary compensation r/w restraining order on proved grounds of mental cruelties under DV Act or under Civil laws are possible.

iv. execution of above is a calculated decision you require courage r/w patience and backing of a women advocate

v. end of world as exasperation in reference to context is not possible now.

vi. hospital records are matter of long court duet, alleged bigamy r/w miscarriage, SMS + familiar alleged proofs lean to proving divorce under cruelties and not to his conviction.

vii. you have better chance of growth over him provided you move away from sightseeing of Courts quicker at this juncture of your mend years.