This is my first marriage. I am working in a pvt company and earning Rs.8,000/-pm. I married to a divorce in June 2010 as My parents convinced me to get married. She is still working in Bharath Petroleum as Assistant Manager. They told that she was earning Rs.1,00,000/- (Rupees One Lakh only) at the time of our Marriage. I did not even see her pay slip and however, I have seen her bank statements showing salary got credited 2 lakh. I am not exactly sure the actual salary. Now, she might have got promoted as Manager or some higher level, I hope so. We got separated within 3 months of our marriage as her health condition did not allow her to involve in marital life at the time of marriage. She was under medication. She never stayed in our matrimonial house after the first night as her father did not allow her to stay in our house (Tamilnadu) the reason being our house is so tiny. We moved to Bangalore after our wedding as we two were working in Bangalore. Her father started staying with us always and he never allowed her to speak to me. When I asked him the reason, he replied that that was the way she grown up. Just because of her father, we never stayed together at night. Moreover, I was doing night shift and she was in day shift. We hardly meet each other on weekends. During that time her father used to stay with us always. He got retired form Railway as Supt. , Madurai Div. They applied for loan with HDFC Bank in the very next month of our wedding and I signed as co-applicant. They got loan of Rs.14,00,000/- (Fourteen Lakhs Only). They bought a land in Bangalore, Ramamurthy Nagar and built Two BHK house with car parking for about Rs.45,00,000/- (Fourty Five lakhs only). This house was registered in her name. In my entire life time, I might have used 5000 words with my wedded wife as we never had time to meet each other. Her father used to tell me that he had spoiled his daughter’s life and got divorce. Even she told me many times that she got divorce from her first husband without her concern and she never leave me. However, her father did not change his view and sent me out of her house in the third month of our wedding. I am staying alone in a rental house till now. My relatives and her relatives tried to fix the problems. However, no vein. They tried to get mutual consent with me. However, I was not ready as I understood that because of her father, she wanted mutual consent divorce.
Now, July 2014, she filed a divorce stating that I had taken videos of her. She did not mention as what kind of videos I have taken as I spent all my nights in the office as I was in night shift. We did not have a Video camera at home. I was using basic model of Nokia phone and now it is in their house.
Could you please advise me as what I can do in this situation?
Your answer should not harm my wedded wife even though she has applied for divorce. We stayed for about 3 days together when her father was not with us. We had good understanding in those three days. I respect her love. However, your answer should be a good lesson for this kind of Father in laws.
