Ritwik (IT) 26 June 2014

Marital discord

Myself is Ritwik Das, I resident of WestBengal and run a Software Development firm with three other partners.

I got married on 9th December 2009. I have a son who is just over two years of age now. Going through immense mental sufferings due to the martial discord.

Following point may best depict my present situation in brief

1.Does not have a conjugal life [in fact, she barely communicates with me]

2.My wife has completely withdrawn herself from my social life

3.Since last two years, she spends most of the time in her parental home

4.She does not listen to me or even doctor's suggestions regarding my son and does whatever she/her parents wants

5.Does not even talk to my parents since last four years [though they live in the same residence] and often uses derogatory wards to my parents

6.Contuniously pressurize me for a separate residence for her

Till now I have taken following steps

1.Tried several times to reconcile, only got rejections

2.Approached her parents several times to make her understand, but in vein

3.Apporached Psychological counsellor, who told to bring her to him, which she refused

Kindly suggest me what options do I have to get rid of the problem.

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sandykrish (Interested in Family LAW) 26 June 2014

Hi Ritwik,

What do you want from this relationship? Try answering these questions for yourself to arrive at the solution step.

a. Do you want to save the marriage? If yes at what cost?

b. To take divorce? If yes at what cost.

You're the right judge by considering all the external factors and the possible internal factors ( discussions that took place inside the 4 walls)

Since you have a child we all will suggest you to save the marriage and again at what cost is the one that you ahve to decide. If she is demanding the new house try this alternative and try to invite her, I know this will hurt your ailing parents but the situation would demand this so, try all possible means involve elders to intervene and solve the issue, if nothing works out you would have to resort to separation. No point in joining the North and south pole it will only lead to depletion in trust.

Think and come up with your decision and we can guide you legally on the next steps.