Is it possible to visualise a "Marriageless society"? Is it possible that the marriageless society will be more just, will give more freedom to individuals for development of mankind. I just received a message from a friend, and though we can discuss-.......quote,
Guys, I was thinking about Ratan Tata, Atal Bihar Vajpayee and APJ Abdul Kalam.
These guys are not married. They all are virtually in their 70s.
Even after 3 years since my divorce, I did not marry. I wanted to have freedom after 3 years or marriage and another 2 years of court cases. I wanted to live life exactly the way I wanted. I knew I can not live my kind of life, if I get married even to the best "Sati Savitri in the world".
I know, how miserable lives of my married friends are. Yeah. They go to parties, they have birthday celebration of their children. But, they are so busy and so worried and time will pass before they get old without knowing what they did to their lives.
Here I am. I left my job, started a company and traveling around the world, when I wish. I know, I can do whatever I want to do being free.
In many countries in Europe including in Germany, people almost have not only lost trust on marriage but also on having children.
Many old people in these countries do not have children.
Then there are other questions for married men:
1) What is your children never take care of you in old age?
2) What if one is married and his wife dies before him and he is lonely at the age of 65 and children are not ready to take care of him?
3) Today most people have one or two children only. There is guarantee that any child will take care of parents given the current trends.
If an alternative marriageless society is created, that will empower men. If a man's wife dies when he is 50, what does he do? Marry again?
How long we have to follow the social definition of having a good life inside marriage? How long good life will remain dependent on having a wife? Today, women are not thinking about husband, then why men have to think about having a wife?
How about creating separate systems and structures for non-married men (even in old age)?
One idea is to create an modern Ashram for old age. If a completely alternative living model is created for single men, many men will choose not to marry.
If you can face divorce cases or DV cases at the age of 33, then one can face such case at the age of 50 as well. What do people who face it at age of 50 do? Marry again and get another DV case at age of 62?
An alternative lifestyle model for single men has to be designed.
Best Regards
Gorky
Bangalore