bhima balla (none) 23 May 2012

Mistrust in marriage- are laws adding to the woes?

The current laws-so called women empowerment laws (which is a misnomer as they only support wife/ DIL) i.e marriage laws-is so biased and have serious consequences for husband and family one should wonder

1) are these making wives/ DIL less adjustable and domineering?

2) Create an intolerable situation for marraige to continue?

3) Cause mistrust-since

a) Wife is not punished for adultery, misbehaviour, cruekty, false cases and now can take a large chunk of self acquired and ancestral property?

b) The devastating consequences of a false complaint by a wife who has other motives-get a divorce on her terms, reunion with her boyfriend after that, money,property, children etc

The question is-are todays laws creating distrust and resulting in more damage to marriage?

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bhima balla (none) 23 May 2012

The law as proposed:

1) Wife wants to leave husband- for whatever reason-may be not in love with husband, does not want the family of husband, has a boyfriend, wants to be with him etc etc Husband loves her though.Then the question is whether husband needs to provide for her? But what about husband's rights? Does that not make husband apprehensive and mistrust his wife?

2) Wants to prevent husbands from throwing away wife for his own reasons- go with girlfriend, doesn't like wife etc etc.The law wants compensation for wife. If wife herself is responsible for husband not loving her-is she not taking advantage of her own wrong? Is husband expected to love and live with a bad wife and if he wants to get rid of her he should pay compensation? Does that not create mistrust and further hasten the fall of marriage? Wife has nothing to lose by not correcting herself as the burden is all on husband?

3) Why there is no insistence for capable wife to make a living herself?

4) Why the errant wife is not punishable?

Is it the opinion of framer's of law that husbands are bad and wives are good? Does this stem from the opinion that all men are bad and all women good? Is there constitutional validity for such laws?

Special provisions-not to discriminate against women is valid. But biased laws?

rajiv_lodha (zz) 23 May 2012

U r very right balla...................VOTE BANK POLITICS IS THE DRIVING FORCE BEHIND PASSAGE OF SUCH LAWS. Question is how to set the things right..............If by any means we ppl are able to project that majority of VOTE-BANK lies on our side, then only we will be heard!

bhima balla (none) 24 May 2012

Truth my friend would be our biggest ally. Spread the truth about about biased laws. Writing a coherent, simple and easily understandable articles in mass media. Simple effective discussions in mass media are both cost effective and effective. More people know about this the better. Only when people are stirred up and energised will they come out and fight for the cause.