Anish Goel 27 December 2016

My girlfriend is torching me to get married to her, or else she will comite sucide

Hello Desk Members, I need your precious guide lines what to do, as my girlfriend is torching me. the whole story is that we were together in college we know each other since last 7 years but we are in relationship since last 3 years, we had committed that we will try to convince our parents to get married but if they will not except us we will happily except what ever our parents will say to us. But now this understanding does't exists, as they are not excepting this, and now she is saying that you have to marry me or else whatever will happen you will be responsible for that, her father don't know about this because he is a heart patient so she asked this to her mother her mother tried to make her understand that this is not possible, but she is not getting her point. After all this I took step not to talk to her, as a result she started calling my friends, my younger brother, even at my work place. I asked her not to do so, some how now she is quit, but she didn't stopped blackmailing me. I don't know what to do now, please help me.

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saravanan s (legal advisor) 27 December 2016

Record all her calls and file a police complaint over her.

saravanan s (legal advisor) 27 December 2016

Be prepared for her retaliation by filing handful of cases over you

A walk alone (-) 27 December 2016

First think what you really want. If you dnt want to marry her then stop attending her calls.Change your number. If you can try transfer to other city then it will be better. If she threats you then start recording her threat. Dnt get emotional blackmail for marriage . before going for marriage with this girl just think this girl before marriage is giving you threats of suicide? After marriage what will she make your condition?

Anish Goel 28 December 2016

Thank you sir for attending my case, yes I had all those records of messages (we had all this chat in messages only).

It was really not expected that she will do so to me, after all this it is impossible even to think to get married to her. and even she is also saying that, she is neither going to marry me nor she is going to get me married to someone else.

Vivek H Bedarker (A) 29 December 2016

You cannot sail in 2 boats at a time. i.e love and physical relationship for 3 years without parental consent and then marriage if there is parental consent. You are in India where indian laws apply. Situation is against you from legal and social angle. However if her behaviour is really intimidating with real threat and blackmail then you may do her counselling etc in presence of witness like friends / relatives / professionals to convince her/ have cover up if she really takes any legal action against you or creates social problem for you. Also you aready are on tge job collecting evidences etc. However prima facie your argument till now are all against you only.

sai narayana 30 December 2016

Yes, OP intention is not good. He is treating the love as business contract/MOU/lease. Self introspection is required.

Anish Goel 01 January 2017

sir, I want to mention one thing over hear that, yes we were in relationship for 3 years, but we were not having any inimational moments even for ones...

Anish Goel 01 January 2017

Hello desk members,

I was not getting what to do, it was really hard to control the situation, so I finally took the decided to tell all this to her parents. and I told all things to them they said to me that to just take backoff, no calls no messages, don't try to contact her.

Dr. MPS RAMANI Ph.D.[Tech.] (Scientist/Engineer) 03 January 2017

If you had s*xual relationship with her with a promise of marriage and if later you refuse, she can charge with rape. Once she charges you with rape she can even refuse to marry you. As presumably both of you are adults, the opinions and actions of parents on either side will not count. You enjoyed for 3 years without bothering to find out whether the parents will really agree. Such promises between adults like 'subject to approval by parents' will not count in a court of law. Laws in this country are women-centric.