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Bechara Pati (Propritor)     13 May 2013

My visitation rights

 

During my son's visitation on my place

* 1st  day we went for gaming, religious place & my home & drive.

* 2nd day my son ask me that he is no allowed to go to home religious place , i am surprise may be in laws pressure him ,I want to know should i take permission for the same from court ? every time to gift him something or where we want to visit some place or go for movie. I want to know my rights is there any book or should i have to make an application for the same like brainwash, misleading etc. in the court. Please help. Refer my any text...

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Tajobsindia (Senior Partner )     13 May 2013

1.    Lots of families still believe in reference to context that child will be put on some spell – witchcraft if religious places visits done by non-custodial parent during visitation hence in reference child is conditioned before such visits to say what the child said to you and you came running here.

2.    Observe in society around you other father’s interaction with child. Same you are supposed to do with your child even during visitations. First winning him over and making bond as father and child then lollipops and other stuffs follows is my view. Reason being child has to recognize you and trust you. Don’t run to court for all and every small things it will spoil – delay the main cause. Have patience dealing with child in given circumstances and understand there are lots of self restrictions one has to apply. Most important is give him a home not sugar daddy hence introduce child to families around yoru circle especially those who have same age children. 

3.    Also I feel there is no point opening different post with same question, let one main post of yours adds different questions.

stanley (Freedom)     13 May 2013

yeah its a case of 

Hostile Aggressive Parenting (HAP)/Parental alienation syndrome (PAS)  Which is a pattern of manipulation or decision making either directly or indirectly thereby creating undue difficulties in the relationship of a child with the other parent when . The disorder can be reasonably traced back to the actions, of a person(s) who are interfering with the child’s relationship with the (target) parent. If psychological evaluations are conducted on the alienating parent, they often reveal the “borderline, narcissistic, or hysterical personality” disorder. Alienating parents are driven by the overriding need for power, influence, domination and control at the cost of damaging the the childs mental and emotional well being. They do not have empathy, sympathy or compassion for others. Unlike rational people, they do not distinguish between telling the truth and lying, which is not in the best interests of welfare for the child. Children who have been psychologically violated and maltreated through the act of parental alienation, are more likely to exhibit a variety of psychological and social handicaps. They can be depressed have a loss of community ,loss of stability ,security and trust, have excessive fearfulness, loneliness, anger, helplessness, poor identity formation and a fear of abandonment 

My advise to you is feed your child with cherries,Mac Donel's ,kentucky  , lolli pops ,ice cream and whatever they like and spend more time playing with the child dance like a monkey and amuse your child and dont be suprised if your wife is inqusitive she would try to get all the details and may even get jealous as to how youll spent the day :-) and never speak negetive but convey only positive thoughts and a few years down the lane your child would be closer to you .

Adv k . mahesh (advocate)     21 May 2013

visitation is given to you to spend lost time with your child and do not waste in meeting people or showing him movies or religious places

1. he want to be free bird so let him move were he want give him full freedom as him were he want to go 

2. spend each and every second with him do not waste time in watching and meeting people

3. whole time is yours and your child so make it a memorable time that next visit he should contact you and come to you without any restrictions from other side 

4. some times they may send other persons with the child do not object let them come and show them how caring father you for your child and your wife let them realise with the circustances you create 


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