Hi,
I got married in February 2014. It was a love marriage , intercaste. Right after we took the decision to marray and both the parents met and discussed about marriage process, there were fights started between me and my wife over the expenses. Her parents would discuss with my parents and then told her so that she convinves me to convinve my parents to do the marriage expense from us and they would end up doing whatever they had planned.
I did all that convincing and marriage happened. Then right from day 4 of marriage, my wife started fighting with my mother. She was verbally abusing my mother in front of me, calling all kind of names. She started threatening from that point she will leave the house. SOmehow my parents consoled her and made her stay.
Then we came to bangalore. Here also she started fighting with me over the marriage expenses and to mu utter shock told me she has taken a personal loan for marriage expenses. She started blaming and cursing me & my family with all filth language, for her loan etc. Her parents also putting fuel to fire and instead of making here understand were provoking her to make me do as she say.
Then came the festivals, my parents told her parents that in 1st year of marriage, there are some customs which we all need to follow and some customs are followed from Bride's house also. Her parents being so clever asked my parents what is done, let them know, and then they forward that to their daughter. And she starts fighting with me on seeing it. She had verbally abused me, physically hit me, spitted on me. I just kept quite and heard it.
Then my wife started talking to my aunt and she told her all the intimate and talks of our family. She has become a private matter exploding(in hindi "chugalkhor") to my aunt. Any private thing whihc I discuss with her, any private matter which I discuss with her has become public.
Then she has become a big theif also. She checks my emails, phone messages, (she had hacked into my account, my laptop remains unlocked in house, she uses it). She reads all my emails, personal chats which I do with other people, and then she fights with me over what I say.
I am in a great dilemma on what to do. My both parents are government servant, and she has made everyone's life hell.
All the time she says do as what I say else I will complain to police, send you and your family to jail.
When my parents try to talk to her parents, and ask them to come meet or they are willing to go and meet, then she tells if that happens, she'll file a police complaint against us.
I can't divorce her, but I need peace for my parents and myself, from all these threats and abuses.
Please advice if there is any leagl way of dealing with this?
