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Marck (NA)     21 October 2013

Need help on divorce

Hi,

My Friend got married in 2011 to the guy who said that he was working in a company but had quit and is about to start a new company. But he did nothing of that sort and had kept on abusing her routinely. She had to work in a company and also take care of household things. He did not earn a single Rupee but had some savings from his previous work which he sometimes used. He also has some inherited property. Otherwise, my friend had to give all her salary to cover for the monthly expenses. After 1 year, she gave birth to a boy who is 1+ year old now.

She did not see any improvement in her husband even now and so had decided to get separated from him. They are staying in different places from May this year (2013). She's planning to apply for a divorce now. What are the chances of getting the divorce without too many problems? Since he's not earning, will it be easy for her to retain the child ? What about the money she had given him (almost 3-4 Lakhs Rupees) and alimony? 

It will be helpful if experts can give their opinions and any suggestions on this issue.



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Rama chary Rachakonda (Secunderabad/Telangana state Highcourt practice watsapp no.9989324294 )     21 October 2013

As a friend you have to suggest her not to reveal own personal information to any body. Moreover if you are good friend to her, suggest her not to go for divorce for a small differences. Court also will not give divorce order for simple reasons. 

sandykrish (Interested in Family LAW)     21 October 2013

Well said Ramachary. Appreciated your suggestion

Marck (NA)     21 October 2013

Originally posted by : ramachary64@gmail.com

As a friend you have to suggest her not to reveal own personal information to any body. Moreover if you are good friend to her, suggest her not to go for divorce for a small differences. Court also will not give divorce order for simple reasons. 

What? Simple reasons? This guy physically abused her, took all her money and left to his hometown overnight with a 6 months baby without informing and did not return. And you say this is simple reason? She lived in a hell for 1.5 years and has decided enough is enough.

I thought this forum is for people discussing serious issues. Didn't expect such stupid responses..

Others, please understand the situation and suggest legal opinion only. Not self styled advices like the one above..


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Hi,

My Friend got married in 2011 to the guy who said that he was working in a company but had quit and is about to start a new company. But he did nothing of that sort and had kept on abusing her routinely. She had to work in a company and also take care of household things. He did not earn a single Rupee but had some savings from his previous work which he sometimes used. He also has some inherited property. Otherwise, my friend had to give all her salary to cover for the monthly expenses. After 1 year, she gave birth to a boy who is 1+ year old now.

She did not see any improvement in her husband even now and so had decided to get separated from him.

 

Opinion: Daily suffering in a marital relation is not said as minor loss and tears. If she is really suffocating within such relationship then it's wiser to call off her marriage rather than being a merely social wife.

 

They are staying in different places from May this year (2013). She's planning to apply for a divorce now. What are the chances of getting the divorce without too many problems?

Opinion: Tell her to talk with him for MCD, if he doesn't agree then file divorce on mental cruelity + willful desertion by him without any reason.She can also file such petition where she is currently residing or where the last time she resided with her husband.The choices are her. Contested divorce depend on her lawyer how he/she argues to prove all allegations without prolonging the case. The more she has evidences and proofs the less time will be taken.


Since he's not earning, will it be easy for her to retain the child ?


Opinion: Till 5 years infant goes to mothers custody after that whoever full fill the best criteria to take care of his/her child till majority the custody goes to the said person.

What about the money she had given him (almost 3-4 Lakhs Rupees) and alimony? 

 

Opinion: If that money was used for household and daily expenses then no claim should be recovered.

Alimony depends on number of factors..........if she is not able bodied and can't maintain herself then she could claim maintenance U/s 125 crpc or U/s 24 HMA. For child he had to contribute till he doesn't attain 18 years.

It will be helpful if experts can give their opinions and any suggestions on this issue.

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Samir N (General Queries) (Business)     21 October 2013

Ask your friend to think very deeply: Is this guy a real loser? Or is there a possibility that he will improve? Is he lazy? Is he intelligent, qualified? There are so many questions. These should have been thought of before the marriage not now. Anyway, if the answers to all such questions turn out to be negative in the sense unfavorable to the sustenance of the marriage, then it is better to go for divorce now than later.


Divorce proceeding is a nightmare. Post-divorce woman with a child is not an easy proposition either. So, basically she is stuck between a rock and a hard stone. It is difficult to give advice without discussing her details in person. Use advice here only as pointers to different thoughts, no matter how confident the advice sounds.


  

Marck (NA)     22 October 2013

Thank you "Every sufferer is a saviour' for the detailed response. That's really helpful.

Marck (NA)     22 October 2013

Originally posted by : Samir N (2HelpU)


Ask your friend to think very deeply: Is this guy a real loser? Or is there a possibility that he will improve? Is he lazy? Is he intelligent, qualified? There are so many questions. These should have been thought of before the marriage not now. Anyway, if the answers to all such questions turn out to be negative in the sense unfavorable to the sustenance of the marriage, then it is better to go for divorce now than later.


Divorce proceeding is a nightmare. Post-divorce woman with a child is not an easy proposition either. So, basically she is stuck between a rock and a hard stone. It is difficult to give advice without discussing her details in person. Use advice here only as pointers to different thoughts, no matter how confident the advice sounds.

Thank you Samir. Yes, she's in a very difficult situation but the guy has not even called her or checked abt the child. His behaviour is one of the worst and she has decided to proceed come what may. Hope he at least agrees for the mutual consented separation.

  

Marck (NA)     04 November 2013

Hello 'Every Sufferer is a Saviour' and other experts,

What is the timeframe one can expect in case of a MCD and for a contested divorce using the mental cruelty/willful desertion by him clause(approximate timeframe, need not be exact) ?

She has got some good opportunities in her career now and it will be better if the divorce thing is completed soon. He doesn't seem to be a person who'll agree for a MCD.

gautam (not disclosed)     04 November 2013

it is all a patience game and what and how strong the proofs are for the person filing the petition

Generally it takes 4 yrs to get a decision (all depends if some person does not turn up in the court in the first or second summon, the delay will continue.

then everybody has an option to appeal in session court, high court and then even supreme court.  the person who patience wears out will have to negotiate.


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