need help to save marriage

The approach of OP seems to be correct.

Think for a moment if OP succeeds he shall have all the reasons to celeberate and settle down again in life without any say;stigma........

Let elders of the family, well wishers and your own senior,very able counsels try to bring about a repproachment suitable to both spouses and their families.....and their future.

 

Even if some differences persist:Some compromise might be worked out. 

 

 

 

 

I'm  also of the opinion that your sister and your other family members must tender an unconditional apology to your sister's husband so that he mellows  down and might positively respond to your sister's overtures thus leading to change of stance towards your sister.This is the only way out to save the  marriage.Your sister's husband might claim  child custody after the child crosses 5 years as he is the Natural guardian of the child if he is financially better off and the chilfd will be safe in his hands from welfare point of view as welfare of  the child is paramount consideration in court's view.

he was ready to forgive all these things, and to accept my sister in his life.. but my mother and mausa ji has totally ruin all this. mother has said so many bad words to his mother and for sandeep also. mother has shown a negative attitude towrds his family and said to him that what can you do.. and my sister also has a negative attitude fof him and his mother. after all this his mind has been changed and he has filed the case.

Marriage works on the basis of trust. How can you think to save a relationship whose foundation is on false basis. Anyway first ask your sister and mother to think with a cool mind. Boy has done nothing wrong. Think if you or your sister in his place then what you do? Now ask your family if they want to save relationship then be cool. Feel apology ( sorry) to them. Dnt make a mistake to file any case it will definitely end with her divorce. Be cool .apologize in a cool manner to his family. If he forgive then only her marriage can save. Have patience time will heal all wounds.

The mistake was from your side.. you cheated a man.. it is natural that he become furious by knowing the truth. More than the past life of your sister the cheating would be hurting him. There was no right for your mother or sister to provoke him more.. What they think.... They should have some brains... now the option left is take your mother and sister and meet with him and his parents.... Apoligize... Apoligize... Again apoligize.... Also include some intelligent ones.... Try to tell him that his child is in your sisters womb... Atleast for that child forgive.... whatever demand he put forward just accept it.... your sister also has to emotionaly move to him.... Let him file case... You people dont do anything.... you appear in court....Request for mediation.....Apoligize there also... tell she is not ready for mutual divorce as she love him so much and dont want any other man in her life.. after sometime i believe he will change.... Always note that dont provoke him..... He may still have some love left towards your sister... Dont let it dry... so many people will give you advice of filing false case against him.... But think what you will gain from it.... what is your objective....... Patience can pay.....

Thus cocealment by wife and family, abuse by wife and mother in law are underlined factors.

The husband and his family is likely to think many times, if they can contemplate spending rest of the life in relation.

Serious efforts are required.

 

can we any how send my sister to back to her in laws house in delhi.. and one more thing. he dont have the evidence but only have a statement filed by the police in front of honble magistrate which was presented at the time when sister got married to that previous boy.. my father filed an fir against boy for kidnapping.. but my sister has given statement that she marry with him by her own consent and that statement was shown to magistrate.. sandeep has that statement... can it work as evidence

The statement before megistrate has significance.

Isn't it!

i don't have any idea.. you all better know about it.. as statement before police and magistrate is evidence or not.

hello ramesh ji... i have asked her... she wants to go back to sandeep home... she also wants to save the marriage life... thanks to all members

Put in some serious efforts.

Wish you the best.

You are welcome.

 

Agreed with all the respectable members, I reiterate that to save the marriage, personal settlement and persuasion is immensely important and any settlement made in that furtherance would be logical enough, if that could ensure prosperity of the bond concerned. 

hello members.. we have tried to talk to sandeep. and his family. but they are not ready to talk. and not ready to take the case back... so we also decided to go against him. we also don't want to send our sister to his house.. now what can we do against him. we want our money back, and want to teach them a lesson. its final that he is not ready to forgive my sister. and saying that he will send all the family members to jail.. so what should we do next to fight against him..

Employing unethical ways might not be the way to go for most of those might be illegal too and might compromise on the safety of your sister and her child. It is hard to say if you will or not be able to get your money back. However, we all have the Right to Justice and Right to Freedom of Speech. Present an application before the concerned Judge or consult your lawyer and file it in an appropriate forum under relevant laws and on reasonable grounds. If the concerned Judge finds it right, he/she may grant it to you, otherwise it might not be of a help.

The best way to legally proceed now is to present applications on the grounds of the unborn child, i.e, welfare of the unborn child with various relevant provisions of law that you can consult with your lawyer.