dear.. experts of this forum,
am new to this site... pl do read and help....
A brief of my case :
- 8 yrs old marriage. Nvr cud develop good terms with wife because of her short temperedness, extreme mood swings, no s*xual life with her, no emotional bonding etc etc. Have been adjusting since then as we have a 7 yrs old son and wanted to give him a smooth life.
- Problem - We tried for mutual divorce but her parents and family asking for a huge amount of around 1.5-2 crores, which was totally unacceptable and hence i decided to go to the court. i have humdreds of her recordings - video and audio, whr she is fighting with my parents and me. She has been troubling them so much that my father is a heart patient now. We never ever asked for any dowry and am sure she would not go to court for the same. She earns around 40-42k every month from her job in a MNC. Everyday threatenings, fights, etc are making life hell at home.
- My Fault - Once she troubled my father so much that to make her stop doing so, my mother had to touch her feet and when i returned back from office, i hit her a slap. else, have never hit her ever. And being a punjabi, i use a lot of maa-di, behan-di in my talks which now has been recorded by her (i guess so). Am sure she cannot prove the hitting thing but verbal talks are recorded. Can these be used as verbal abuse ? I talk like this with friends, clients and almost everyone...not much...but yes, use it in between lines.
Also, as we are not emotionally/ s*xually involved since almost 5 years, i am in an affair since last 2 years which she knows abt. Now, i want to get a divorce and remarry again. Cannt spoil my whole life with her.
other than the above...have'nt done anything wrong to her. am still paying for her food, clothes and expenses. she stays in my house and lives like a queen... separate room - tv, ac, kitchen access servant, car, driver etc etc.
HELP NEEDED
- should i file the divorce case first, as she would never do that. she is happy with her life here.
- how bad it can be if we go to court ? would this verbal abuse land me in trouble ? what is the maximum punishment of verbal abuse ?
- would this adultery be a problem for me ? i read, adultery is'nt illegal with an unmarried girl. hence, can she still do harm to me on this. she can say she was mentally traumatised due to my affair etc etc etc....
- i have 2 properties, in my name - all self acquired. shud i sell them of gift them ? how to safeguard my assets.
- how can i get the custody of my son ? she has never taken care of him and my son is more close to me than her. let me know what are the chances and idea / suggestions on how to take this ahead.
wud appreciate if u can guide with a proper course of action.
waiting in anticipation..
thanx
pankaj
