Today evening my wife/in-laws fell on my parents feet begging to set the marriage right and she doesnt want to take divorce. She signed MCD only because of the lawyer. She accepted all her misdeeds. Ya I dont believe her and her nature and fight her on a contested divorce for the mental cruelty but its a moral victory for me.
Flashback:
We were married 2yrs back and shez is a housewife. The only qualification that she posses is being a daughter of a police officer. She boasts about it all-day. So naturally she was adamant and violent. Shez immature and got some psychological issues. Even though shez 27 she behaves like 15yr old. But then they have taken care of me well as they were financially ok. But the trouble started as soon as my engagement completed. I sensed on the firstday that shez narrow minded and very selfish. But due to my over confidence, I thought I could change her. Then after marriage we were together for 1.5 months and then all those days we had constant fights. I have to agree that I have temper and I will lose it very quickly. So I man-handled her sometimes when I thought shez behaving like an evil.
Some examples of her nuisance:
1. During our honeymoon at manali, I asked her to clean my shaving razor and believe me she cleaned it in commode water :| and gave it back to me. I just lost my senses when I saw that. She was such a fool.
2. She hated everyone around me including my parents, her parents, my sis, her brother, my friends and to such an extent that she hated my two little nieces(3yr and 1yr old). I understood shez possessive of me but it was suffocating for me. She used to call me numerous times to office just for nothing. Even if I warrant her, she never used to listen. Once she called 110 times in 4hrs. Yes its true.
3. She hated my parents. When I am not around, she used to harass my parents that she will attempt suicide and cops will come arrest my parents. She hated their presence and I never liked it. I never wanted to sleep with an evil woman. So I didnt get involved with her as I was getting increasingly suspicious about her mental health. My parents were with me for 20days and that too for medical reasons, that small period she could not live with them.
4. Finally I lost my temper when she served my mother a plate full of rice with full of insects. I had a big fight with her. My mother had retina problem and she can not see properly. Thats it I understood how cruel one woman can be. I informed their parents abt it.
5. She didnt like it, then she started dhamki game. She used to give me suicide dhamki's. One day while I was going to office, she was in the kitchen and not responding. So I went to see her. She was sitting with a knife in her hand and she was yelling that she will kill herself. And then I consoled her saying how much we and her parents like her. I left job for 3days and I was sitting next to her. I used to get food from outside and serve her.
6. I was furious and so I asked her father to come and take her away.
7. She started accusing me of impotency, infidelity etc. I dont know how one can be both impotent and have affairs. Lol. Anyway she started accusing me of having affair with my nieces, they are 3yr old and 1yr old. She started sending abusive messages alleging affairs with my nieces.
7.5 My in-laws and wife came to my house in the pretext of settling things and started abusing/fighting with us. They came with some goons and started abusing me and my father. When they started to man-handle, I took charge and gave a retort. I wanted to give a complaint in the PS but my dad stopped me as he didnt want to spoil my marital life. But I didnt forget those moments.
8. Then she started accusing my dad for rape and my mom for murder attempt that too with a pillow like how they show in movies. That day I decided that I will never ever stay with that lady again.
9. Her father being a police officer thought that why not misuse his position. They gave a complaint of dowry harassment on my whole family including my sister who never ever stayed with us for even a single day . I dont like to call it as a mistake, because if my brother does such kind of nuisance, I will man-handle him. So I never felt I was wrong as she was on the wrong side and I was on rage. But anyway if there is any wrong doing from my side, it was my temper. Then I got call from CAW and then I agreed to talk to my wife.
10. Three months I spoke with her continuously each day atleast for 3-4hrs. I tried to reason with her. But she didnt listen. She started new demands. That I should leave my parents for lifelong. I should buy her 4gold bangles. I should deposit my salary in her account...so on so forth. But she didnt come back. I have sent her money every month for her expenses. I have sent her letters to comeback. All I wanted is to take her to medical counseling. I never wanted to abandon her although shez completely unfit for me.
11. So finally one day my FIL called me and at 11:30pm in the night he demanded that I should leave my parents for lifelong and then only she will come to me or else they will register the FIR the next day morning. I understood these people are evil and then I told him go to hell, do whatever you want and I will never see your face again. They called my office and spoiled my name. But nobody beleived them because all my friends/collegues are well informed with all these happenings. This was some 10months back. There are no cases on me and then I filed for judicial separation. I was ready to fight hard. Looking at the JS then she came to senses. She switched tone again. Then she started appologising. I never agreed again.
12. Then came the settlement. We agreed. We withdraw JS and with an MOU we filed MCD. She/FIL signed the MOU and MCD as if they were winning multi-crore realestate project.
13. After 3months, she started again by sending SMS's that she made mistakes and she doesnt want to lose me. But once she accused my father of rape, I can never take her back. I can not love her and I can not touch her and I can not sleep with her. She is evil. I never wanted kids from such a woman.
14. Now they dont want to give me divorce. My FIL/BIL/MIL/Wify all are crying infront of the lawyer and begging to set it right. I was never after money. My FIL was willing to give whatever I ask. I dont need to demand. But see how they spoiled their own daughters life. They were not able to answer their relatives when someone ask the reason for divorce. They may get money, but natural justice will happen.
15. She stayed for 45days and spoiled two lives.
16. Today afternoon she came and fell on my fathers feet to accept her apologies for all that she has done for me and my parents. I dont believe her though but this day made me happy as she proved that I am the righteous man. The erring one will suffer, I always believed in it. I am happy I could protect my parents, my sister and my nieces respect. I may lose another 3-4yrs to win divorce from her but morally/ethically its a win for me today.
