Physical relation in marriage

Originally posted by : NAGARAJAN
	if wife ask for 11 times a day what the husband will do.as per law after marriage it is mandatory.any advocate in this forum can do that.

then allow wife to do adultary..don't cry before my sasurji if your wife do so!.

thanks for the advice Mr.rajinikanth

ahahahahaha.

I am in a dilema..Ive been married for 2 yrs .. i was far from my husband for 5 months...we didnt had s**  for 1 year ...my marriage was totally disturbed due to in laws and husband harassment , he didnt gave a chance to think of it and he dint want it .after 1 yr  i had counselling in india about marriage and heard so physical relation is must for happy married life .wen i was back to USA...we bounded relation and had s**.......but  its 3 times in 4 months  and even am not sure whether his participation  is 100%..i tried so much to convince him coz i want relation to healthy .i even asked him , he told me not to be cheap, what cheap????????????????!!!!, if husband is not willing , and wife asks for s** is it a cheap????? what i have to do??? as am typical Indian  women , in our families divorce is still a wrong thing ..i cant divorce him.. it be void???? how can i face  society?i just kept quite , coz its love  then arranged marriage ...i convinced my parents to get married to him , i fought with them and convinced them and they made it arranged by giving dowry as per my mother in law demands.plzzz give me a solution..i feel cheated by this guy

Madam Shalini:

Do not hasten to come to the conclusion that your husband is a cheat. There are people in this world like Mr. Nagarajan who probably think about the role of s*x as a bad thing. We all, particularly in India grow up without knowing anything about s*x from "respectable" aources. If at all we know or fancy most well- bred children believe that though s*x may give pleasure it is a bad thing, which only bad people engage in and certainly not their own parents. Our religious literatures, except those of Islam,  also preach the the virtues of celibacy.

Most probably your husband was brought up in such surroundings that he believes s*x is a bad thing. It is also possible that he lacks in libido. It may be a conditioned trait or may be of some genetic causes. But in any case it may be possible to make him s*xually responding. What is his opinion on p*rnography? Is it possible for you to expose him to p*rnographic literature?

Also you say that occasionally he has s*x with you. You should make best use of those occasions to make him want more of it. There are also specialist counselors on the subject.  He or she can be an American or an Indian, because s*x is same across all cultures. First you meet the counselor alone and state your problem. Then you take him with you.

I believe that this problem can be solved. Do not lose heart.

Dear Mr.Ramani,

I never said s*x is bad thing.As per doctor's advice for healthy life after marriage intially for 1 or 2 month daily one time s*x is good for health.after 2 month weekly 3 times is better this can be alternate days.this can continue for many years.it is better to reduce to 2 times a week after the age of 40.

There should be limit for all that is what i am trying to say. infact s*x is a kind of medicine.

Mahatma Gandhi said that the first born was Karmaja.(Born to do Karma to parents).

The rest were all Kamajas. (born as a result of lust).

In other words abstain from s*x after the first born. He advised only abstinence as a means of birth control.

How many Karmajas and Kamajas did Mahatma Gandhi have?