Pre Marriage - Parental Threat

It's best to talk to her parents. Then, gauge their reaction for a few months to decide if you still want to get married.

Hi Uma.

Thanks for your reply. Her dad has not directly confronted me but he knows that we are carrying on an affair and he is dead against it. Thats why he has warned her daughter of dire consequences. Even if I did approach and propose marriage. He would not agree and maybe even confine her in her house and get her forceully married to a boy of their choice.

Any suggestions ?

you leave her alone

If you get married the law is on your side. But as regards threats, you yourself have to decide. I do not think that Government will give you Z-category protection. They do not even protect prosecution witnesses. As regards the threat of suicide by the girl's family only you two, particularly the girl, have/has to decide, whether marrying you or her family is more important. How do you propose to get married under Special Marriages Act, Church Marriage or Arya Samaj marriage? Have you tried to find out whether the girl's father and your mother will be ready for an Arya Samaj Marriage?

Thanks for the info Dr MPS Ramani...

Just a brief of the girls side... Although she loves her parents, she is willing to sacrifice and commit herself to me. But she has been threatened by her parents that they may do something incase she goes against their wishes.

Her parents have a doubt that we are having an affair but my gf has never disclosed to them that we are friendly, just friends, but her dad has already warned her to stay away from me.  Regards to my mother, i guess she will be convinced soon as I have already introduced her to my mom and my gf has come over to my place on a few occasions.

We plan to marry under the Special Marriages Act (court marriage). Once that procedure is over and we are legally wed, I will proceed to register and marry under the Church after following all the rules and procedures. It is only after the court marriage will we disclose to her parents that now she is legally married to me. I know there will be a lot of bad blood from her parents side and they may even disown her. She and I are ready to accept that. But my fear is that even after marrying legally will her parents cause harm to us?

Max Fernandes: I also fear the same, your future wife might not be able to cut her parents completely out of your life. Are you in favor of moving to a distant place? This will limit their interference. Otherwise...all hell might break loose. Usually kids brought up in a suppressed environment are emotionally dependent on the parents.