When You do everything possible from your side in a marriage, but still getting ridiculed or abused or isolated or threatened or are just plain confused & terrified what's going on, there are more than 90% chances that your spouse may be suffering from a personality disorder(BPD/NPD or both) thanks to his/her dysfunctional family
Do visit shrink4men.com & other personality disorder sites to find out for yourself what's exactly happening.......
My advise...run away from him/her immediately...divorce if u are reasonably sure....no life is more hell(not in the least getting arrested for 5-6 days on false charges) than living with a personality disordered spouse for entire life..
Rest your life...Choosefor yourself(provided if u still have the self esteem left after years of constant abuse)