Dear all,
Thank you for the responses. Can I clarify my query further?
My situation is like this. Though I am getting a high pay now, I am working in a difficult job which could affect my health in the long run. My aim is to save some of the money for the future, given that I have elderly parents and a kid to support. Also the job is very stressful and affecting my health. it is not sure how long I will be able to continue in this job. Maybe 5 yrs or maximum 10 yrs - after that I'm thinking of retiring and doing some small business with the money earned till then. But I made a wrong choice in marriage. My wife's inclination has been to spend most of my pay in buying luxurious items for her and many times, for her family. The way she was brought up, their family has the mindset of living a luxurious life, even by borrowing money from others. She is unable to understand the merits of saving money for future, although I tried my best. She used to be working earlier, but not after marriage. Now. After the last argument she has gone to live with her mother. I am despondent as I could not get her love still. Also I spent so much of money, earned by wasting my health working long hours, for giving presents and financial assistance not just to her but to her whole family. Now I am ready for the worst. I at least do not want whatever remaining money I have saved to end up with this unscrupulous family either in maintenance or in any other way. I think I don't need this high paying job to maintain my family as I may get a lower paying job which is better suited to my health in the long run.
Thanks for your patience. Now my query is, it looks like a legal battle is looming. She has all the advantage, it seems. It is true that the last time we stayed together, I had this high paying job. Now, if I quit the job before the matter reaches the courts, and if the judge has to take a decision on alimony, on what basis which he decide? I mean, will he want me to pay alimony as per the salary I was earning when I last lived with her, or will he want me to pay alimony as per my living standards of the time when the matter reaches the court?