Most of the violence in human relationships arises out of a feeling of shame and concern to live up to the standards of society when the relationship does not appear conforming to the standards of society. Sometimes it even becomes a pretext for violence and nobody knows what is the set standards of a society that people are expecting others to conform. Generally speaking, people who live for honor are violent in nature, they use honor as a pretext to ventilate their suppressed negative feelings, anger, frustration, hatred etc. And what appears on face is a smile artificial worn for the sake of others not a genuine one. While still carrying this kind of absurdity of conduct, they expect others to appreciate their point of view, sometimes it breeds a kind of dependence on the approval of others and such people are mentally sick by their own standards which they themselves often fail to see. Their expectations to be appreciated of their point of view about their conduct many a time appears brutal and that itself is another sign of sickness. All the external things that they show to society, like photographs (while they are socializing to show how happy they are to society), newly purchased cars and bikes, houses and flats etc cannot resolve their inner conflicts with near and dear they can only satiate their thirst for image of fast-growing (materially not spiritually) person in their family and friends social circle. It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society (Jiddu Krishna Murthy).
The best remedy for all such sick people is to stop socializing with people for a year or two and start living for each other without worrying "who is watching us" and "who is thinking what" about us to overcome the fear of loss of honour in the eyes of society. So many family relationships will mature if people stop socializing for a year or two with outsiders without even calling anyone for occasions like birthdays.
