Under going pain from 1 years

The CS is just 7 months old. Wait for nearly 1 more year to be over by then he may get convicted. The world is all yours bowing at your feet, use social media, use Celebrities, use talk shows, and conduct candle light walks at India Gate.

But away from all above my only limited one question to you is; if you knew just 10 days before marriage as you say in your brief about the dark side of would be FAMILY what being educated and capacity to spend 25 L on marriage stopped you not to go ahead with the marriage?

You may choose not to reply which I can understand as I respect empowered ladies living 7 kms. radius of JNU now-a-days.   

Dear sir,

We smelled 10 days before but not took it too seriously and they were not demanding anything big.But they were demanding. I raised this issue with my parents but i was not too sure even they were not. My parents said that all this is petty dont get involeved in these issues.I am simply taking things over board. And alas they convinced me for some while but still i was scared and i was not in a position to trust them.

My only mistake was yes i admit i made biggest mistake to marrying this guy and took it lightly. I would had been bold enough and cancel everything. Only thing i was not able to gather courage 10 days before marriage when most of my relatives already here,I did not took a stand. That is why i punish myself every day and regret the day of my marriage.

One more information i would reveal here is the day when marriage was fixed , boys end did not gave us time enough to think anything. They simply fixed the date of marriage quikly and started preparing for it.

At that point also i raised issue like let me spend some time with him before going any further. But no 1 listen to me every one was too happy. 

Yes i admit that being in 21st century and being self dependent . i simply succumb to my parents decision and did not took my stand strongly and boldly. I would have.

But seriously sir Boys end is very smart enough, They create a good picture , they are tactful and they are very manipulative also. Its hard to beleive on one self in there presence. One will easily start doubting own self confidence.

I doubted my self and always thought i am taking things over board. I even discussed this issue with the boy but he could easily convince me making false promises about future and rather having trust on my intutuion i trusted him.

I was in dilemma throught.." if i am doing right or not , no i am going ahead in wrong direction , stop , ok  move , ok let it be , no stop , no he is good , no he is not , no they are greedy , no they are not " i kept on pondering. And the time came when i took decision half to my relatives were here and marriage functions were starting after 2 days. My parents did not supported , all cards were distributed , bookings were done and non refundible ,Some istridhan was also send to him home etc etc.

I was not in a position to take up a stand. The irony is we live in society and it is difficult for a girl to come out and say it out loud That i dont want to take this relationship any further. that too when no one is supporting.

I was suppressed and yes due to which i am regretting till date.

Yes sir what ever you mentioned is already filed in FIR.And charge sheet is already prepared 7 months back. But everytime they do some notorious activity in court and gets stay order further. He and his lawyer are trying to defame my character in court and when court asked they did not had any proofs.Against that we send some counter reply and now they have to submit rejoinder and the time given was 2 weeks and they unecessrily lingering on till today.

I am keeping my patience at my best but some time after seeing the court slow procedure i get disturbed thinking will he ever be punished or not.

I am also worried for my future. If this case takes away good days of my life i will be left with none.

Have you got medical of your husband done?

He might be suffering from Schizophrenia,is a mental disorder characterized by a breakdown of thought processes and by poor emotional responsiveness. Common symptoms include auditory hallucinations, paranoid or bizarre delusions, or disorganized speech and thinking, and it is accompanied by significant social or occupational dysfunction.

I had a similar known friend, whose husband was voilent and unpredictable, he was diagnosed with having Schizophrenia.

I think you are right.

Such people will sit for hours by you and not talking , will call you but never express , have tremendous suspicious atitude , always insecure that their partner will leave him , is very over posessive sought of and interfers into every relation be it mothers and daughters relation also.

Its a mental disorder , everything needs to secreated in human body be it swet or emotions.

If one dosent able to organize his thinking or express it properly , find short cuts in life , and is not loyal to one own self. then he has a violent behaviour . and thinks he can control the other person not through love or trust but through authority or power. and also surrenders to alcohol and other addictions in life.

These people never feel or think they are mad or they need a treatment. So if you talk to them about it they will again get violent.

More over my marriage only lasted for 1 month and he was such that my life security was more important for my parents than his mental treatment.

Even his parents were not supportive at all....in such cases if guys parents are careless and dosent bother and not take any responsibility , nor stay with their son permanently. then its difficult for a girl to survive in the house all alone with a phyco.